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Default Jul 27, 2022 at 05:42 PM
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I am a 52 year old woman who has been married for 26 years, but together for 30 years. I have just been told by my husband that he has no feelings for me, not attracted to me, and that he is gay and has been living a life of secrets and lies. He wants to be free. I AM COMPLETELY DEVESTATED!!! We have a beautiful family together. I knew something wasn't right these last couple of years, but I NEVER thought it was this. We are separated for sure, but due to the economy right now, neither one of us can live anywhere else at this time. So it is very hard to look at him and try to be nice in front of others. I am just broken because everything that I have build with him is done now. Just lost right now!
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Default Jul 27, 2022 at 06:11 PM
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Hi @LoveMyFamily5 - welcome to MSF My Support Forums. I am sorry that your marriage has taken a turn totally unexpected. It sounds like it is a shock for you.

I have had a relationship where we lived together but I knew it was over and it was not easy. I wonder if I would have had easier time if I had sought professional hel[.

Hope you get the support you are looking for.

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@Super Moderator- Thank you so much. I am working on myself and trying to surround myself with great support.
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Default Jul 28, 2022 at 01:36 PM
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I am a 52 year old woman who has been married for 26 years, but together for 30 years. I have just been told by my husband that he has no feelings for me, not attracted to me, and that he is gay and has been living a life of secrets and lies. He wants to be free. I AM COMPLETELY DEVESTATED!!! We have a beautiful family together. I knew something wasn't right these last couple of years, but I NEVER thought it was this. We are separated for sure, but due to the economy right now, neither one of us can live anywhere else at this time. So it is very hard to look at him and try to be nice in front of others. I am just broken because everything that I have build with him is done now. Just lost right now!

Please try to keep your head up.
I know it's an easy thing to say but it's so important.
As someone who lived 8 years in a relationship which was, with hindsight, broken, I know how difficult the next phase is going to be for you.

Share your pain and sorrow here if it helps.
This is a tremendously supportive community and it's vital you don't allow the situation to get the better of you.

We're here to listen.

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I am a 52 year old woman who has been married for 26 years, but together for 30 years. I have just been told by my husband that he has no feelings for me, not attracted to me, and that he is gay and has been living a life of secrets and lies. He wants to be free. I AM COMPLETELY DEVESTATED!!! We have a beautiful family together. I knew something wasn't right these last couple of years, but I NEVER thought it was this. We are separated for sure, but due to the economy right now, neither one of us can live anywhere else at this time. So it is very hard to look at him and try to be nice in front of others. I am just broken because everything that I have build with him is done now. Just lost right now!
This has to be a total shock to you. It’s hard for me to imagine someone living a double life full of lies like this for so long . Regardless , you have to deal with this situation as it is right now. I can tell you from experience that living together under these circumstances is going to be very difficult. I would suggest professional counseling immediately. You need to go on with YOUR life. He may have “ knocked you down “ but you need to get back up for the next round.
Continue to come back to this forum where you will get much needed support.
Best of luck to you…….

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