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Jul 30, 2022 at 05:36 AM
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Hello all, going through a separation after 13 years. Marriage hasn’t been good for a while, I’ve been dealing with my own mental health issues as that ultimately lead to the split. How do I move forward with this? I love my two kids, we are talking much better now than we have been so maybe the split is for the best.
I’ll still be in my childrens lives for sure, but how can I move forward as a new single man? I assume it will be harder before it gets easier. Any tips? Tricks? Advice? Thanks BG |
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Jul 30, 2022 at 01:47 PM
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HI @Bigkarl - welcome to MSF My Support Forums. Sorry your relationship ended but it may be worth patting yourself on the back that you stayed together as long as you did and helped and are helping to raise children. That is not easy in this world the way it is.
I think for me the most important thing is getting a stable routine. Exercising and practicing mindfulness help me to stay grounded. My diet has a big effect on my mood. I try to cook 4-5 meals at once and keep in refrigerator and or freezer for easy reheating. I just do not have time or motivation to cook every meal individually. I avoid sugar and intoxicants because they make my mood swings worse. I have joined online communities and avoided dating sites trying to make friends rather than romance. Socializing is not easy but online socializing seems the easier of the two. I try to live within my means financially and save as much as I can either for emergency expenses and retirement if I have enough for that. It is interesting that a 401K or IRA often reduces my tax bill so my take home pay is not radically different even if I save a fair amount. It is worth asking about that and how it would affect withholding and your pay check. Go easy on yourself. Everyone thinks things might have worked out better "if only I had done ____________" That is usually the inner critic talking. I try to avoid the blame game. Hope you get the support you are looking for and post in other threads and forums. Sometimes one forum does not get the same response as other ones. @CANDC __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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