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I am still trying to process how my life has been torn to shreds in such a short amount of time. I have been married for 15 years, and we have three wonderful kids together. Recently, I was offered a new job and we have spent the last few weeks excitedly looking at new homes and packing our current home. In fact, on Sunday, we were cuddled up together identifying a couple homes we should put offers on. The very next day was my first day at the new job. I left for work and called my wife during lunch. The conversation was joyful and we ended the call saying "I love you."
Then when I arrived home, I found she had cleared out all the kids clothes and left. There was no note, no message, no discussion that she was planning to leave. We never even spoke about separation or divorce. I was devastated, and still am. I didn't have any clue this was happening. Now, she won't let me speak to or see my kids at all. She won't even tell me why she left. I feel paralyzed and need any advice/ support you can offer. I feel like my whole life has been blown apart and I'll never be able to put it back together. Please help. |
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Your wife cannot legally take your children away like that. They are your children too.
Did you sell the home you were living in? Can your wife get to your money? Do you know where she is? |
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Maybe get a lawyer involved to make sure she is forced to let you see your kids?
Even getting a letter from a lawyer might get her to let you see your kids and explain to you her reasons for leaving? |
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I still have the house, and I have hired an attorney. However, my attorney said it may be 2 months before we can get a hearing in front of a judge. I like the idea of sending her a letter from the attorney.
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Do you at least know where your wife and children are?
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I think it’s illegal to keep kids from one parent or the other. I think a strongly worded letter that says your going after her for kidnapping might be advisable.
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Another “ just get up and go “ with no explanation. Seems to be a common
scenario nowadays. So , if she is filing for divorce it should say in those papers somewhere her reason for wanting to leave. She can’t just take the kids. You can come to an agreement with her but this all still has to be signed off by a judge. And it’s not going to happen overnight. You have to decide who’s staying where , who gets the kids and when , and the financial aspect. I don’t know how old your wife is but I’ve been hearing a lot about “ mid life crisis “ and extreme hormonal changes. It could be physical. Hopefully after a short separation she will come to her senses and come back to at least talk to you about it. I’ve been hearing a lot about woman “ falling OUT of love” , and needing more space etc…. And they sure know how to take advantage of the legal system which favors them tremendously. Get a good lawyer , and good luck. Just remember you have your own life to live. Don’t let her take that away from you. __________________ Trying to Live in the Moment |
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Thank you all for your comments. I am meeting with a lawyer today. I am going to fight like hell for my kids!
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Hopefully your kids are safe.Praying for you.
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Unless there was abuse in the past or some other HUGE problem, I'd assume there is another person she is with.
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