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Default Nov 30, 2022 at 09:57 AM
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He's having an affair
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Default Nov 30, 2022 at 06:19 PM
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Default Dec 26, 2022 at 05:29 PM
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Have you tried a separation counselor?
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Default Jan 02, 2023 at 09:48 PM
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He just wants to be divorced and I just want to scream to him How?! Why?! You promised to ALWAYS!!! How in the world can a person feel such Strong Negative Emotions about the person he supposedly loved and cherished for So long?! I just don't get it! And I don't think I can make it through. I don't want to go on without him!!
I am so sorry for what you are going through and I can relate to your statements.
I found out 4 days ago this is my reality also after 28 years with my wife who is my everything . Yet she says she still loves me and that its tearing her apart as well . Why are you asking for a Divorce then? I don't get it and it has me so depressed
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Default Jan 02, 2023 at 11:29 PM
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Wanting a divorce doesn’t always mean there is another person involved. Often it’s more about a person’s unhappiness with where they are in life and the stress of keeping up with the responsibilities of whatever their lifestyle requires.

There has been a tremendous amount of stress on many due to the impact Covid had on our entire economy and ability to interact socially.

It may not just be you personally but instead the overall stress and unhappiness your husband has been experiencing that has been building up in him personally. Often not wanting to talk comes from not even knowing how to talk about what he is experiencing.

Inflation has been horrible! All essentials are more expensive and some states are worse than others in terms of cost of living and taxes. That’s a lot of stress and it may have been affecting his ability to earn enough income to keep up.

If you have not been working and have been a dependent you are out of how stressful things have become. So how can he talk to you about it?

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Default Jan 03, 2023 at 03:15 PM
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I too am kind of in the same boat right now. My wife won’t even speak to me anymore about anything. She hasn’t even told me she wants a divorce yet, but I’m just sitting here waiting for the day trying to keep it all together. She is the main source of our income and kept me from working a high paying job all these years. I can’t eat, sleep, or even stand up without thinking about her anymore. It’s eating me up and I don’t know what to do about it either. My best friend is gone. 17 years together many good ones some bad, but I took my marriage vows very seriously and still do till the ring is off my finger. I do have a job but it’s not enough to live on really. I’m kind of thinking she kept it that way for a reason. I’m bearly making it through each day. Any suggestions as to how to move on or pass the time would be greatly appreciated. Things that have worked for others etc…..

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Default Feb 02, 2023 at 07:25 AM
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@ladyofmistakes what happened in your last fight, specifically, and specifically what mistakes have you made in the marriage? if you don't want to answer, that's Ok, but you mention that you've made quite a few mistakes and that your last fight was basically the end of it all for him. So what specifically went on or down in your marriage? Perhaps getting to the bottom of that will help to enlighten you more about his decision to end it.
I agree havehope.......to the OP.........if you've been married 16 years and have no children what have you been doing with all that time ?? You never worked at all ? You don't have any skills ?
You must have done something to really tee off your husband .
Also , you say he's your everything. NEVER put all your eggs in one basket. Sounds like you need to work on your self esteem and maybe learn a skill where you can have an income of some sort. I learned never to put my whole being into the hands of another person.
Good luck to you.......

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