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Default Dec 05, 2022 at 05:46 AM
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Hello. I've been officially divorced for seven months. The situation is tough as I've moved out of our home and am living on my own in a small apartment. We're not communicating at all. I'm finding it really distressing and I am concerned that after seven months I am still having regular crying spells and feeling really depressed. I am still able to function insofar as I have continued to work full time, exercise, socialise and try out some new things, but I can't shake intense feelings of sadness that overwhelm and my mood is really down. Curious to know how long other people went through similar feelings after they were divorced and what worked for them. Thank you
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Hello MrTSW and welcome to MSF!
I see this is your first post, and I just wanted to respond. It is very understandable to be coping with emotional distress in your situation. Talking or writing about your feelings can help, as you have a lot to process from what has occurred.

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How long were you married?
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Was married for seven years, together 17 years. Biggest relationship of my life
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@MrTSW you were with someone for seventeen years, it’s going to take you time to rebuild your life. I can’t say enough how important it is to be patient with yourself and know it’s ok to have these tearful periods, you are mourning a loss. It’s going to take time for you to fill your life with new things it’s a rewiring of how to live your life differently.
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Grieving has no time frame, it takes as long as it takes. I was married for 31 years, been alone for 21 years, and I still occasionally think about it. Be gentle with yourself.
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Hello. I've been officially divorced for seven months. The situation is tough as I've moved out of our home and am living on my own in a small apartment. We're not communicating at all. I'm finding it really distressing and I am concerned that after seven months I am still having regular crying spells and feeling really depressed. I am still able to function insofar as I have continued to work full time, exercise, socialise and try out some new things, but I can't shake intense feelings of sadness that overwhelm and my mood is really down. Curious to know how long other people went through similar feelings after they were divorced and what worked for them. Thank you
The fact that you can still work and keep busy is usually what many people have a hard time doing after a divorce. Your already doing what mostly needs to be done, and that is SURVIVE ! But the emotional distress has to be dealt with. And it seems like this is where you need the help. Have you've been able to talk about your feelings with friends , family ,
or anyone else ? It may be time to find a therapist or some professional who may be able to help you cut thru the sadness and / or depression. Remember, there is really no timetable for grief.

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