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Default Jan 25, 2023 at 07:57 AM
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I'm getting out ...... but this time I'm going to ,every day,work on diminishing the emotional and physical attachment/addiction.
You see I've known since the very beginning that this was nothing more than a physical addiction. I mean , isn't that how most " relationships " start out ? You see something you like so you go after it. I believe it's pretty much the same for women but they wait to see "who you are " , and how you treat them before they make any kind of commitment, " like a date " , to start off with.
Bottom line is it was a physical attraction that turned into a physical addiction. We were not well for each other from the beginning. It did not blossom into a mature relationship where we both got to know each other and understood what REAL love was about. Real love to me is about fulfilling each others needs ,
and having basically the same wants and goals in life. Real love means never getting tired of the other person After awhile it becomes work. But work you enjoy doing because seeing your partner happy makes you happy.
Anyhow , all that I just said did not happen in my relationship.
It got pretty ugly at times.
What I finally realized was she had no intention of working to try and understand why I am ,and was ,the way I was. It was all about her getting back at me . It was all about FIGHTING me instead of talking to me. My mistake was in always having hope that she could communicate with me. As long as I did what she wanted me to do everything was fine. But as soon as I started to question some things...........
So I'm going to " put a check " on my emotions and envision myself moving forward, in solitude if necessary. One thing about getting older is that you may not have the same physicality of a 30 yr. old but , by the grace of God , your somewhat wiser.
To be continued.........

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Default Jan 25, 2023 at 03:40 PM
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Seems to me that you are very insightful. Knowledge and experience can often be produced but insight seems to have a schedule of its own. It comes when it comes. And it is something somewhat different from knowledge and experience although sometimes these pave the way for insight. A lot of people call insight, wisdom. That's probably a helpful thing. In any case, I'm glad you are realizing things from a very deep place. Bravo!
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