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I've had the darkest 3 weeks of my entire life, but I think it has passed.
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It takes time ((JTL)).
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#643
Yes, it's been a lot of up and down, lots of crying, depression and sadness.
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Remember, it’s ok to feel. It takes time to accept and feeling is part of processing.
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#645
I'm trying to accept something I didn't want and not be bitter or sad.
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#646
Holy ****...
After weeks of zero contact, I reached out today to ask wife if she needed new tires for her car. She responded: "I want you to know that I watched 3 different videos on narcissistic behavior and I see you in all of them. I'm so sorry that narcissism is the reason that you cannot be in a forever, relationship, and it will take you years to heal from this, but I hope you decide to put in the work." I'm stunned............ |
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#647
This is coming from someone who is very confused and constantly turning to some kind of religion or mystical creation to fill a void in her. She is not qualified to diagnose you period.
Everyone has their weaknesses and varying narcissism levels without being on the extreme that leads to a diagnosis of NPD. |
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#649
@Open Eyes:
Here's what I wrote in response: Father, I pray for the miracle of healing in the heart and soul of xxxxxxxxxxxxxx. I so deeply regret that I hurt her soul and she did not deserve this pain. Lord, please forgive me for hurting xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx. I pray that You would comfort her, please. Lord Jesus Christ, my heart reaches out to You for a miracle in this. I beg that you restore xxxxxxxxxxxxxx's happiness, and that you heal her soul and spirit, and that you bless her with financial solvency and abundance. Please grant this humble request for forgiveness and bring peace to her heart. Subsequently, I release myself from this burden and I declare myself free from my past sins, failures and shortcomings. In the name of the God of Israel, of Issac, Abraham, and Jacob, i pray these words into existence. So let it be written, so let it be done. Amen... As far as I am concerned, I've more than made ammends for whatever I have done and I choose to not speak of it ever again. |
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#651
I think the video has a meaning to her personally and the reason there is no explanation with it is that all she did is find a puzzle piece to her own complicated puzzle where she is still not seeing the entire picture.
In your own way you are also trying to piece together a puzzle. You have also been hurt in your first marriage. |
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You have been quiet, you ok?
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#653
I think after reading the 33 pages of posts, I think too that she is trying to confirm that you are always still around and will always be there no matter what. You should try to reply less and re-frame from replying at times. It really is a unique thing that women fell. Have you tried to ask her what and how she feels about anything she wants to share and then just have to reply? This sounds counter intuitive but she may only need you to listen and not solve her problems. Just listen, no reply and accept whatever it is she is telling you. From her response that you are a narcissistic, it seems like every time she would say something, especially about you, you got on the defense. Which is a normal human response, but to her you are not letting her share her feelings and you are disregarding her feelings by solving it (that's what we men do, especially for who we love, I get it, but women think differently).
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