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Apr 04, 2024 at 10:59 PM
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It's as though I had no idea how to be a good one. I love my wife. Just because I was a lousy husband doesn't mean I didn't have a heart full of love. I did. And I do. I'm just heartbroken. Devastated.
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Apr 05, 2024 at 01:39 PM
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@Arkady Jameson I hear you. Not blaming yourself is part of the healing process. We cannot control what other people do and say. The only thing I can control is how I judge myself and how I react to what others say and do.
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Apr 05, 2024 at 08:46 PM
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Let go of your past and it’s associated guilt. Try to be better than you were yesterday.
You will find your journey towards healing will become a little smoother |
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Apr 05, 2024 at 10:53 PM
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You know, my new friends, I've had something of an epiphany I the last few hours. I'm done wallowing in a warm bath of regret. Nuts. I'm getting on with my life, for however long I have, and I'm going to quit beating myself up.
Here's the really good news for you guys going through terrible times In a divorce: the epiphany is coming for you too. Hang in there. |
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Apr 05, 2024 at 11:00 PM
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All of you guys in dire straights: things will get better. You'll feel better soon. Life will be enjoyable again. Hang in there!
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Apr 06, 2024 at 07:25 AM
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You probably had a lot of ideas about how to be a good husband. It may come down to two people just not putting in the right effort to make it a good marriage. I’m recently divorce and have been thinking the same thing. How did this go so badly? I’m sure neither of us intended it to be such a nightmare, so how did it happen? And boy did it ever go bad… But I like what you said here about moving forward and not beating yourself up. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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