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Apr 17, 2024, 10:22 PM
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The title says it all. I'm a part-time dad. That's all I'll ever be since my divorce unless one of my kids decides to live with me when they get older. I could one day see my son wanting to live with me but for now he's only 3 and therefore he's not old enough to make that decision on his own. Some days and sometimes it's not so bad. I'm able to focus on doing other things but then sometimes I get to missing my kids so bad and the pain is beyond overwhelming. I just don't know what to do or how to handle this.
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Apr 18, 2024, 04:18 PM
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@AUTiger7222 oh no that sounds very hard to handle. When do you get to see your kids?
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Apr 18, 2024, 08:05 PM
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I'm so sorry... your pain is palpable.
I wish I had an answer for you... Facetiming every day may not be the optimal substitute but it's something. Do the terms of your divorce allow that? How often do you get to have your kids with you overnight? You're grieving right now and need someone to rely on to share your feelings. Do you have a support network where you feel safe and not so alone? Friends? A counsellor? A doctor? Again, I'm so sorry for your pain... 
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Apr 18, 2024, 08:24 PM
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I am sorry. Not easy. I saw your other post. I see that you have unusual arrangement of having kids all day. You only don’t have them at night and on the weekends. Are you stay at home dad? I’d say you see them a lot. I know it’s still hard but it seems like very generous arrangement. Is this arrangement long term or until they go to day care/school? In the future 50/50 might be a good deal for all parties involved. It’s painful no matter how you slice it, of course.
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Apr 18, 2024, 08:28 PM
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Apr 18, 2024, 09:01 PM
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Hey Tiger I feel you I honestly do. I am fairly recently separated and while I have my kids every second week I miss them terribly when they are not with me. I am the main source of emotional support for them and it breaks my heart when my youngest is struggling and I can't be there for them. All I can say is focus on being the best dad you can be when you are with them. ALWAYS put them first and don't put down their mother in front of them. But yeah... it's really hard. Hang in there and talk to people on here.
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Apr 20, 2024, 11:14 PM
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@CANDC The times I've gotten to see them and be with them has been very fluid because my ex keeps changing jobs so the times she's working and the times I have them changes as a result. I'm hoping that one day we'll be able to settle into a routine because it would be helpful to everyone involved. But right now there's not a set schedule. It's just whenever at present. |
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Apr 20, 2024, 11:15 PM
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I wish I did have a support group or something because that would be helpful but I'm isolated so it's even harder. |
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Apr 20, 2024, 11:17 PM
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Apr 20, 2024, 11:18 PM
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Apr 20, 2024, 11:21 PM
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Apr 21, 2024, 09:44 AM
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@AUTiger7222 hope things settle in to a predictable pattern.
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Apr 21, 2024, 05:28 PM
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May 10, 2024, 10:08 PM
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As a man that is dealing with being less than part time. Still count it a blessing to be able to interact with your kids part time at least. My wife has told my daughter to not even answer my calls. So it hurts like you know what to be in these positions, but we have to focus on where we are at and what we have in this moment and let that be enough until the opportunity comes to better our situation and familal position.
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May 13, 2024, 07:00 PM
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