[mountainhigh]

I know it's inevitable and there is nothing to do about it, but my son, who lives with me, informed me that my x's boyfriend is now spending the night with her. Her relationship with him is the primary cause of our divorce even though she told me their relationship was over. It's something every divorcee has to go through but I'm having a tough time dealing with it. I laid awake all night last night. I don't even want her anymore but why am I so sad?

[Lenny]

Originally Posted by mountainhigh

I don't even want her anymore but why am I so sad?

Because it closes the door on Hope.

That is a hard moment mountain and I feel for you.

Fill your day with stuff to do,,,if you can,,,find someone to do something for without them knowing...

Two things come from this..one you will be distracted and two,,,you will be of service,,even in a dark moment...

We care,

Lenny

[cantstopcrying]

I 1000% feel your pain. About 6 months ago I asked my fiance of 9 years to move out. He is already living with someone and it breaks my heart--and we are still on good speaking terms. In fact he fixed my car today and she was there. Ouch. Hard hard hard. I think it hurts too because of the time spent together. Memories are hurtful things sometimes--even the good ones. You have a son together--there were good times; and now her bf is staying there it hurts, whether you still want her or not. History. That's why it hurts. Lenny's idea is great. Find something to really really occupy yourself. Good luck.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by mountainhigh

why am I so sad?

You're still grieving. It lasts a long time. You may think you're done and then something else will come up and more sadness will visit you.

[mountainhigh]

Originally Posted by sunrise

You're still grieving. It lasts a long time. You may think you're done and then something else will come up and more sadness will visit you.

I was going to add what you just said. My emotions have run the gamut for the past 48 hours and I'm operating on total of about 4 hours sleep. Might have to take something tonight. I'm also a comision car salesman (at least I sell Hondas) and I have to repo a car today from a friend who is a respected highschool teacher. Her financing fell through and she has had the vehicle for 30 days. Terrible! AAAAH!

Thanks so much for your thoughts. We will survive

[Lemon]

Mountain, how's it going? I hope the past couple days have been better.

[1confused]

Originally Posted by mountainhigh

I know it's inevitable and there is nothing to do about it, but my son, who lives with me, informed me that my x's boyfriend is now spending the night with her. Her relationship with him is the primary cause of our divorce even though she told me their relationship was over. It's something every divorcee has to go through but I'm having a tough time dealing with it. I laid awake all night last night. I don't even want her anymore but why am I so sad?

sometimes when we want the our past relationship we still dont want them moving on. i had an old x ask me to come to a local pub resteraunt and meet her new bf. now im completely over this girl and we are friends, but i recently went through a messy break up. i couldnt go see my xx gf just cuz of the simple reason i didnt want to see her happy with someone else when im so down right now. so its understandable. especially with the kids involved.

[mountainhigh]

Originally Posted by Lemon

Mountain, how's it going? I hope the past couple days have been better.

Thanks for askin', because even though my situation hasn't changed, and may have even worsened a little, I feel better and have been able to sleep (without meds). I guess it could be a commentary on the human spirit, in that I am determined to be happy, healthy, and to survive and someday to flourish!

[Lenny]

Originally Posted by mountainhigh

. I guess it could be a commentary on the human spirit, in that I am determined to be happy, healthy, and to survive and someday to flourish!

You certainly are mountain,,, a great example of that drive. Most of here are. We just ain't going to take it anymore...

Good for you..one foot in front of the other...Flourish you will...

Lenny