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#1
Jul 21, 2009, 08:24 AM
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Hello to everyone that reads this. So, lately, I have been struggling a lot. I've been scared to post, but I really need support right now. I have feared posting because my Chats mean the world to me and help me get though the week. I want to support everyone and know I do give out a lot of advice that people say is very helpful. The chats help me a lot but I struggle with taking my own advice. I fear losing the people that come to my Chats and I don’t want that at all. Running my chats help me get though the week!
I have been skipping meals and restricting more and more. I'm exercising more with many different types of exercise. When I do eat there are days I eat normally and then there are days where anything makes me feel sick. I do not act on these feelings anymore, but it’s a struggle. I just don’t know how to fight anymore, I want to and I am fighting, but I am just needing others to help me get though this time. I know that things will improve and that things will get better, but right now day to day is a struggle. My T is helping me with fighting and the team of people that come in with me on some T sessions are all helping me through. I fear asking for support for fear I will look weak and that people will stop coming to my chats (Which are going sooo well it makes me happy). I Fear that I am selfish for asking for the support. So I am sorry for asking for support, but I know I just need to know I am not alone and that it is okay to ask for support, even being a chat leader. Thanks for your time. Doll |
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#2
Jul 21, 2009, 09:02 AM
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 doll, we all here to support each others ...and just because you chat leader doesnt mean u always fine ...u also human right ? sometimes we slip and its doesnt meant we not strong and its fine to ask for support when u need it and dont be sorry for it ....i do believe people here will understand we here on greatest community on earth  ..sending you huge hugs ....here for you .. just pm me if u need to talk
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#3
Jul 21, 2009, 09:53 AM
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Gosh, you're not weak for asking for support. And you are certainly not alone. I don't go to chat but it sounds as though you're doing a wonderful job and that you can be proud. Never be afraid to ask for help yourself. I am sorry you are struggling with restricting but I am also glad that you are working with your T. Hang in there and well done for asking.
((((Porcelain Doll))))
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Jul 21, 2009, 10:16 AM
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(((((((((((((Doll))))))))))))))) We are all here for you, you are a very special person
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#5
Jul 21, 2009, 11:04 AM
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You are not weak or selfish, at all. It takes a lot of courage and strenght to ask for help smetimes.
That said, I'm so sorry you're struggling so much. I hope things will start to go better very very soon. Keep posting if it helps. Take care
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Jul 21, 2009, 01:55 PM
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NO WAY IS ASKING FOR SUPPORT SHOWING WEAKNESS!!! That's an action of intelligence. Remember even therapist see therapist. As for the eating..... I still struggle so can't help, but can wish you hope. Starlite  
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#7
Jul 21, 2009, 02:24 PM
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Do not be afraid to ask for help we all need help sometimes from others no matter who we are if I can try to help you please pm me and we will set up a time to talk Sorry you are feeling so bad
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| Porcelain_doll_2004
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Jul 21, 2009, 02:24 PM
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ditto to what everyone else has already said
glad you could post about this
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#9
Jul 21, 2009, 09:34 PM
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Oh, Doll, I'm sorry! It's certainly okay to ask for help. I'm glad you have a T, too; mine helps me. She's really good! Anyway, we're all here for you & we want to help. Don't give up. I admit, I too want to give in & slip back to EDs old ways, but I can't. I'm going back to college again this Fall, so I can't slip back. It's hard, but if I can make it, you can, too! Hang in there.
I enjoy the chats.  Thanks.
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Jul 21, 2009, 11:05 PM
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Dear Doll,
First, I  you. (And I'm sorry about MSN. It's dumb on this borrowed laptop).Second: I'm glad that being a chat leader has helped you. That's important. I'm also horribly bad at taking my own advice. So you're not alone there. And you're not alone in feeling like asking for help and admitting weakness will mean that people will treat you differently... but it ISNT true, especially when the people matter and truly care about you. So basically, anyone who doesn't react well to you admitting that you're NOT SuperWoman, then they don't matter. Really. (I'm going to be completely honest and tell you, that as an admin here - I'm afraid to ask for help too. Because I'm afraid that people will see me differently and treat me differently. But I'm human, you're human - and no man is an island, and it's easier to work on our problems TOGETHER than by ourselves!) Asking for support means you admit that you're not perfect and that you allow yourself to be supported. Which helps others who might see you as having it all "under control" and might be afraid to post because they fear YOUR judgment! Funny how things work out, but you're probably doing a lot more good for yourself and others by asking for support than if you kept your problems to yourself. I sincerely mean this when I say I love you, respect you, honour you, and think you're a wonderful person - even with your flaws. You're a beautiful woman, no matter what those nasty ED voices say.Quote:
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Jul 21, 2009, 11:58 PM
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((((((((((((((doll))))))))))))))
I'm so glad that you posted this, and you're asking for the support that you need. Nobody here thinks any less of you because of this...we're all in this together. I'm really glad that your chats have been a healing experience for you, because I can say that they have been healing and helpful to me, and I'm glad you can feel the same.Anything you need, I'm always here for you. And again, I'm SO proud of you for asking for the support you need. 
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#12
Jul 22, 2009, 12:00 AM
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Doll,
If it's weak to ask for support then we are all weak!! I believe it takes incredible strength and courage to request help. So, that makes you strong and brave. Hear me, you are strong and you are brave. Believe in you!
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| fallenangel337, Fuzzybear, Porcelain_doll_2004
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#13
Jul 22, 2009, 03:50 PM
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Thanks to everyone. I am just struggling with Both my ED and a few other issues, I won't say since this is the ED fourm. I feel lost, and alone a lot of the time.
I am trying to eat but feel sick a lot. I am still scared to talk but know that I really need to. I am tired a lot and am letting myself rest. I am working on it all though, I am trying. Thanks for all of your responses it has helped. I just know I need to keep saying I need the support. Doll |
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Jul 22, 2009, 06:37 PM
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(((((((((((((((((( doll )))))))))))))))))))
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Jul 22, 2009, 10:53 PM
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Talking is good, but scary. Being tired is pretty normal where not eating properly is concerned, I am glad you are resting. I am also glad you are working on it and trying and not giving up. That is the most important.
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#16
Jul 23, 2009, 12:25 AM
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Part of what is going on is ED related. I know I need to eat, I know I need to keep trying to eat. But there are times I can barley eat anything. And if I do I feel sick after. I won't play on these urges but it is there.
I am at the point I can't even look in the mirror. I am trying to remind myself to do affirmations and set goals, but I feel like it it a losing battle. I know I need that to get better. I know I need to do everything that I so much believe in (and know works) that I share in chat. I feel like I need to lose weight, but know I need to stay stable. I am trying to eat, but now just get mad at myself for eating. It will get better. Doll |
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Jul 23, 2009, 02:22 PM
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(((((((((((((((( doll )))))))))))))))))
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#18
Jul 23, 2009, 04:17 PM
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There is nothing selfish about asking for support, especially when one is so willing to give support.
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Jul 23, 2009, 07:12 PM
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You're right. It WILL get better.
((((((((Doll)))))))))))))))
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#20
Jul 25, 2009, 08:06 AM
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Thanks again everyone! I am still struggling but I am making it. I am realizing that I need to keep fighting this all. I am greatful to have everyone here.
I do realize that you are all here for me, it is taking a while for me to actually reach out and open up to people. But I am trying to do that slowly. Thanks again, I will keep you updated. Doll |
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