[Sam2]

i'm not sure that anyone can answer this because you would have to get inside someone's head. I'll ask anyway.

I know a girl that I went to high school with. She was never heavy, I'd call her of medium build. She went through some sort of bipolar thing, (she won't talk about it), and I hadn't seen her for a long time. When I finally did, she looked like she had lost an awful lot of weight. Too thin, but not emaciated. I figured she had been having a hard time with her illness and the meds had made her inappetant. A while went by again, and I saw her at a mall. As we went through the door, I caught a glimpse of her sideways. I was shocked. She was wearing a tube top, the kind that sort of molds to yur body. It looked like there wasn't enough of her to fit all her organs in her abdomen. I couldn't see her ribs, they were under the tube top, but they looked collapsed. In addition to her weight, her hair had thinned and she was alittle pale. She had no *** or chest. Befor the weight loss, she had always had a normal chest and butt.

This time I asked her right out of she thought she was anorexic. She said she didn't think so. She had been in therapy for bipolar for a long time, and said her therapist told her once that he admired anorexics' strength because they could control their hunger. I found that kind of irresponsible to tell someone who is already compromised. She would tell me about getting up at night and jumping rope, not to lose weight, but because her bipolar made her unable to sleep sometimes. She said her family physician told her to eat a spoonful of peanut butter a day.

For a short time, a few months, I spent a bit of time with her, but never noticed any odd eating habbits. We would go by McDonald's and she would eat a bacon, egg and cheese bisquit before we went to the barn and I never once saw her try to purge the meal, or disappear where she could. Same thing if we went someplace to eat. She would eat a regular meal, but not rush to the bathroom or home afterwards.

She never seemed that obsessed with her looks, although she would get defensive if I mentioned how thin she was. I never saw any behaviors that led me to believe she was refusing food, and she never talked about how she looked.

Does this sound like an anorexic person to you? I've never known anyone else with an eating disorder, but i always thought they would be obsessed about their weight and not eat. I just have a hard time believing that someone of normal build could lose that much weight and not be. (Just an estimate, but it looked like she went from 120 something to about 90 pounds on a 5'7 frame.). It obviously wasn't her "normal" weight.

Sam2

[Victoria'smom]

I'm really good at faking confidence. I can go out to eat, have a good time, not looked stressed because I know exactly how many calories are in almost everything. Most eating disorder Fly under the radar because they learn the red flags and avoid showing red flags. If she is in therapy there's not much you can do.

[Sam2]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

I'm really good at faking confidence. I can go out to eat, have a good time, not looked stressed because I know exactly how many calories are in almost everything. Most eating disorder Fly under the radar because they learn the red flags and avoid showing red flags. If she is in therapy there's not much you can do.

I don't discuss it with her. My feeling is that pushing would only make things worse. It does sort of irk me that a therapist would tell her that he admires anorexics for their control. That is like telling an alcoholic that they are admired because they can continue to drink and not show it.

Thanks.

Sam2