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Aug 09, 2013, 10:15 PM
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What are good rewards (non food) for some goals I have set for myself revolving around my ED?
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Aug 10, 2013, 05:22 AM
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Hmmm.....I never rewarded myself or set real goals. What have you done?
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Aug 10, 2013, 07:37 AM
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I haven't finished them yet but I find it's easier to complete a goal if you know what reward you are getting. I could PM you my goals if you'd like.
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Aug 10, 2013, 10:52 AM
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Some rewards could be going to get a mani or pedi. Or a massage.
Going on a day trip somewhere nearby. Buying a book you've been wanting to read. Going to a movie. |
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Aug 10, 2013, 11:03 AM
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I've rewarded myself with new books, ordering a movie on demand (I don't like going to theaters), new shoes (avoiding clothing), or some small gift I've wanted but refused to buy myself.
My ultimate "reward" for when I finally am "recovered" is to buy a new camera for myself. I'm still a long way from that 
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Aug 11, 2013, 07:30 AM
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Craft things or books that I have wanted
An enjoyable movie.....usually I watch on my computer because I don't go to the movies very often. A trip to somewhere I've been longing Something for my horse. Just a day off from doing anything that I HAVE to do & not worry about doing or not doing anything.
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Aug 11, 2013, 09:53 PM
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In case any one wanted to know what I decided, I assigned each goal a level of difficulty and then each level of difficulty got dedicated a dollar amount. At the end of the month that amount of money will be tucked away for a shopping spree.
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Aug 12, 2013, 03:27 PM
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That sounds like a good idea to me.
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