[LaDauphine]

I'm an old (29) ED sufferer and I hope there are a few people my age on here although I'm looking to communicate with anyone who just might *get* me.

I'd love to brag about my success stories when my ED was in full swing (Lord, was I beautiful), but I just don't have the time to do so. That's the thing about ED's and age: You don't have time to maintain the lifestyle as strictly as you once did. I used to be able to focus ONLY on diet and exercise, but now? I have a job to get to... A house to clean... A puppy to take care of... A fiance to please... A wedding to plan... Friends to talk to...

I sought this place out because I keep getting banned and hated on from my wedding sites. Apparently, I fat shame and am way to superficial. Then I realized I just need to be in a community where people understand me better.

I'm getting married in 10 months and there are going to be changes!

[CANDC]

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[Skeezyks]

Welcome to PC La Dauphine! PC is a great place to gain mental health support as well as to obtain mental health related information. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more you'll get from the time you spend here. My best wishes to you!

[eskielover]

I don't know but it seems like if one has the tendency toward anorexia, a wedding can many times trigger that because I don't know many brides who don't try to loose weight to look their best possible in their wedding dress......that's just a plain old TRIGGER.

But like you said....now in your life, it's full of responsibilities that make it not only impossible to focus on those goals but it also makes it impractical because you can't be betting weight so low that you pass out all the time or end up getting sick & landing in the medical hospital or in a treatment center because the weight loss got out of control......that's just plain called being responsible with your life....& it's the wise thing to do.

I had several times when the anorexia got out of control & it wasn't so bad at the time because I wasn't working (my computer engineering career had collapsed with the California aerospace industry) & I was living with my H who though he wasn't capable of caring for me, he could do a few things & I could get by.

But after leaving him (finally after 33 years of a bad marriage) I am living alone & I started out with 7 dogs who were completely dependent on me for their care. I couldn't get myself back into the state I knew I could get into very easily......being responsible had a higher priority in my life after that change than loosing weight did.

That's a normal cycle of life. However NOW I still watch my weight & refuse to allow it to get out of control in either direction & that is in reality more of a challenge than JUST loosing weight.

Life has many seasons we all go through & things of the past disappear into the past even though the tendencies can still be there & we do have to watch for them & keep them under control.

It's ok not to be in the same place you were. You will find your new normal & that's OK also.

[LaDauphine]

Originally Posted by eskielover

I don't know but it seems like if one has the tendency toward anorexia, a wedding can many times trigger that because I don't know many brides who don't try to loose weight to look their best possible in their wedding dress......that's just a plain old TRIGGER.

But like you said....now in your life, it's full of responsibilities that make it not only impossible to focus on those goals but it also makes it impractical because you can't be betting weight so low that you pass out all the time or end up getting sick & landing in the medical hospital or in a treatment center because the weight loss got out of control......that's just plain called being responsible with your life....& it's the wise thing to do.

I had several times when the anorexia got out of control & it wasn't so bad at the time because I wasn't working (my computer engineering career had collapsed with the California aerospace industry) & I was living with my H who though he wasn't capable of caring for me, he could do a few things & I could get by.

But after leaving him (finally after 33 years of a bad marriage) I am living alone & I started out with 7 dogs who were completely dependent on me for their care. I couldn't get myself back into the state I knew I could get into very easily......being responsible had a higher priority in my life after that change than loosing weight did.

That's a normal cycle of life. However NOW I still watch my weight & refuse to allow it to get out of control in either direction & that is in reality more of a challenge than JUST loosing weight.

Life has many seasons we all go through & things of the past disappear into the past even though the tendencies can still be there & we do have to watch for them & keep them under control.

It's ok not to be in the same place you were. You will find your new normal & that's OK also.

Thank you for such a thoughtful response, <3.
I've never let anything spiral, either. I have too much control to ever get fat FAT, but I'm not thin THIN either and I don't like how my body is changing.
I'm getting married in 10 months and I'm afraid I won't want to post photos because of how I'll look.

My work schedule has calmed down some and it's routine so I'm more capable of getting things organized.

I work around food and I love having control over it.