[indigo1015]

I’ve thought about it, and I have come to the conclusion that deep down, I don’t think I want to lose weight. Why? I’m expected to want to lose weight because I’m a fat person. I probably should because I’m prediabetic. But for some reason, my heart’s not in it. Why? I feel like this makes me a substandard person in some way, and then I feel angry because it shouldn’t. It’s not for lack of trying… I have tried every diet out there. I’ve starved myself. I’ve used substances. I’ve exercised with sprained ankles. I did personal training and gained weight instead of lost it, which was very discouraging. This doesn’t mean I’m stuffing my face or anything. I just feel very confused and frustrated. I don’t know why I don’t want to do this. Should I want to??? Am I a bad person? I don’t know. And I don’t like not knowing.

[Yaowen]

Since I struggle with weight issues, I can DEFINITELY identify with you. There are costs and benefits to every course of action and the best person to determine a course or courses of action, I think, is the person reaping those benefits and paying those costs. I think you have a right to choose your own way of life. I myself am a bit conflicted on how I want to proceed but I make my own choices. Best to you!

[indigo1015]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

Since I struggle with weight issues, I can DEFINITELY identify with you. There are costs and benefits to every course of action and the best person to determine a course or courses of action, I think, is the person reaping those benefits and paying those costs. I think you have a right to choose your own way of life. I myself am a bit conflicted on how I want to proceed but I make my own choices. Best to you!

Agreed— I think my issue is I’m hurting from the past. My mindset is based off of what I’ve dealt with before. Maybe counseling would help.

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[jendavis]

Originally Posted by indigo1015

I’ve thought about it, and I have come to the conclusion that deep down, I don’t think I want to lose weight. Why? I’m expected to want to lose weight because I’m a fat person. I probably should because I’m prediabetic. But for some reason, my heart’s not in it. Why? I feel like this makes me a substandard person in some way, and then I feel angry because it shouldn’t. It’s not for lack of trying… I have tried every diet out there. I’ve starved myself. I’ve used substances. I’ve exercised with sprained ankles. I did personal training and gained weight instead of lost it, which was very discouraging. This doesn’t mean I’m stuffing my face or anything. I just feel very confused and frustrated. I don’t know why I don’t want to do this. Should I want to??? Am I a bad person? I don’t know. And I don’t like not knowing.

It's important to recognize that your feelings and thoughts are valid, and there is no right or wrong way to feel about weight loss. It's not uncommon for people to have mixed emotions or conflicting desires when it comes to their weight and health. It's essential to approach this issue with self-compassion and understanding. It's worth exploring why you may not want to pursue weight loss despite societal expectations or potential health concerns. This journey is individual, and what matters most is your well-being and what feels authentic to you. It's essential to prioritize your mental and emotional health in this process. Seeking support from a healthcare professional, such as a therapist or a registered dietitian, could be helpful in navigating these complex feelings and finding the best path for you. Remember, you are not a bad person for having these thoughts and feelings. It's okay to be unsure and to take the time to understand yourself better.