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Default May 08, 2021 at 04:11 AM
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I certainly think the answers to the above remind me of what brought about past successes. So what helped you?

For me:

* Support, support, support. Going at this alone is/was always the hardest way to make positive changes.

* Learning tricks and secrets that help.

* Motivation/attitude. Sometimes tough to have when dealing with mood issues. But it can be developed. Initial success can feed motivation.

* Excitement about new foods/cooking. I think at least the first of these can apply to everyone. Of course the new foods must be appealing. Many low calorie/fat foods can be satisfying. Do you know what they are?

* Learning how to deal with setbacks, but then move forward again. We all have cheat days or unexpected binges. Try not to, but when they happen, put them behind you. Chances are that one or two cheat days/binges won't add so many extra calories to totally undo the on plan days. Quitting totally, adds too many calories to every day.

* Not minimizing success. So you lost 1/2 lb (~1/4 kg) in a week of being perfectly on plan? That's NOT nothing! Just imagine tearing off that weight of boloney from your backside. It's a lot!
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Default May 08, 2021 at 07:44 PM
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Dear Soupe du jour,

I think those are really good suggestions.

I recently suffered a hiatal hernia and now I can only eat small meals. I am supposed to eat 6-8 small meals throughout the day. Ironically it has helped me with my weight problem. I wouldn't recommend a hiatal hernia though. It is really awful. I plan on trying some of your suggestions.

My self-esteem is tied to the work I do helping people in trouble. It gives my life meaning and direction and also seems to provide me a very solid and sturdy sense of self-worth. Because of this, I guess, a lot of things can be going wrong in my life and they don't really touch my self-esteem at any deep level. A lot of people in the helping field had pretty messy and often troubling lives but they are not remembered for that. They are remembered for their kind hearts.

I hope lots of people see your post and respond to it. I am grateful that you posted it!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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Default May 08, 2021 at 08:36 PM
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I had a good experience doing keto for a month, forced to eat healthy, and lost weight. Normally, I’m an average eater, not so healthy, everything in moderation. When on certain meds, though, I binge on junk food.

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@Soupe du jour and all:

Well, i see my thread about terminology got moved here. That's okay, i know who is behind it and i'm gonna give it the attention it deserves. So i guess i'm joining you here!

I reject fad diets of all kind. There's a fascinating book called "No Fat Chicks" by Terry Poulton (a woman journalist) which exposes fad diets for what they really are: a cash-grab by the running-dog-capitalists.

I've had temporary success counting calories, eating a moderate diet according to The Canada Food Guide which is really heavy on the vegetables.

I'm 54 now and when i was 41 i dieted for a year in this manner and lost 65 pounds. I felt so proud of myself and it was so much easier to move around! I even went hiking!

Unfortunately, tho, i guess not ENOUGH had changed and over the next few years i put the weight back on. Now with COVID-weight i'm at the heaviest i've ever been 5'3" and 250 pounds, BMI 43.4. Ghastly!

I have a family now, a sweet dog and i'd like to be more active for her. I walked her by the river this morning with my neighbors and i was exhausted despite having brand-new excellent walking shoes.

I don't know tho. I'm in my fourth week of dieting and tho i've made some progress (my clothes looser, more energy, etc. [i don't weigh -- that's a recipe for disaster]) i don't know if i care enough.

I think of the actress Kathy Bates and how much i admire her and she is fat. I think Aidy Bryant on "Saturday Night Live" is so pretty and she is fat. I think of Melissa McCarthy who i so adore and she is fat.

So, how much do i hate being fat, really? I sit here on the balcony in a pretty sundress and i think i look pretty darn good! We have a young man in the building and his girlfriend is fat and pretty and he called me "friend" and wouldn't let me pay him for helping me with a task the other day even tho i am fat.

So, there are compelling health reasons to lose weight but vanity does not have such impact anymore. It's becoming acceptable to be fat now, in the media. And i admire women who don't worry about their weight.

I feel my passion for weight-loss is waning. I'll still keep up the good healthy habits i've developed these last three+ weeks, but i don't know that i'm down for a great deal of suffering just to be thin.

There's the Healthy at Every Size movement (HAES) and it makes a lot of good sense. A wise woman told me as a child that people come in all shapes and sizes. That woman was my mom.

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Default May 24, 2021 at 12:13 PM
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Wanting to live a long time helps motivate me to eat healthy. I’m 26, turn 27 next week. But I want to get better habits now earlier in my life so they stick when I get older. And I want to be healthy physically.

Reading weight loss advice tips on Reddit helps keep me motivated too.

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