[Erica212]

My first T spent more than half the time talking to my Mom, then when I came in simply asked how my day was. Eventually I left after she told me how much of a burden on my family I was.

Has anyone else experienced a "Bad T"?

[glok]

Hello, Erica212. I have had therapists I had a poor connection with.

[Shadowdove]

Not so much TS as pdocs. Had one still makes me laugh. I really could not stand this guy.

OK so I only went to him for Med monitoring and that was 90 day intervals. So that proceeded much as imagined. Gave me a Med that causes serious nite sweats. When asked about that he said it might be the Med OR I might have cancer or aids.

Always addressed me as "Mrs ***" never by MT first name. When asked to please use my first name he refused, saying he didn't want transference issues. LOL. Trust me he was about 90 and seriously UGLY.

OK so then I got divorced in the midst of one of the intervals. When I told him at the next appointment, he was basically furious that I hadn't called him.

THEN of all things (love this one) he tells me that my whole problem is NP because all I ever do is talk about myself. LOL LOL. Yes doofus you keep asking me questions about how I feel. How should I have answered?

I got up and told him he was a dip**** and to shove it.

I have had other horrifying experiences but this one is just stupid and now funny.

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by Erica212

My first T spent more than half the time talking to my Mom, then when I came in simply asked how my day was. Eventually I left after she told me how much of a burden on my family I was.

Has anyone else experienced a "Bad T"?

Several.

[ThisWayOut]

wow, that really sounds awful Erica212. I am not sure how I would have handled that one... I once had a T tell me in the first 5 minutes of meeting her that she thought I should be locked up for life because of my history (which at that point was over 3 years old), and she had no reason to trust me. She said that if I had gone there by myself (and not had my wife waiting in the lobby) she would have had me committed on the spot. It took everyhting I had to not run out of there crying (I wanted to get out of the building before I burst into tears so she wouldn't change her mind about letting me leave)...
There are some therapists out there who should not be in the field, but I have also had a lot of really wonderful ones. I hope you can find someone good to balance out that bad experience.

[nummy]

My current T talks about herself incessantly, to the point 20-25 minutes of my appointment will go by before she comes up for air. I can't even ask her to be quiet because she won't even let me talk. Sometimes when she asks how I am she is frowning, as if resenting even having to ask. She's about to go. Poor thing really is either in the wrong line of work or needs a therapist herself, imo. She's not a bad person but one session I got 5 minutes to talk about myself. I shouldn't have to be charged for this and may surreptitiously record (temporarily) my next session to back me up if they give me flak about quitting her. I hate that it comes to that, but I'm not paying $200 to listen to my therapists problems.

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by nummy

My current T talks about herself incessantly, to the point 20-25 minutes of my appointment will go by before she comes up for air. I can't even ask her to be quiet because she won't even let me talk. Sometimes when she asks how I am she is frowning, as if resenting even having to ask. She's about to go. Poor thing really is either in the wrong line of work or needs a therapist herself, imo. She's not a bad person but one session I got 5 minutes to talk about myself. I shouldn't have to be charged for this and may surreptitiously record (temporarily) my next session to back me up if they give me flak about quitting her. I hate that it comes to that, but I'm not paying $200 to listen to my therapists problems.

Wow! I am gobsmacked! No need to stay with a bad therapist, there are plenty good ethical therapists out there.

Originally Posted by Erica212

My first T spent more than half the time talking to my Mom, then when I came in simply asked how my day was. Eventually I left after she told me how much of a burden on my family I was.

Has anyone else experienced a "Bad T"?

Can't trust a therapist either...it's like you're just another number.

[InTheProcess]

Originally Posted by Erica212

My first T spent more than half the time talking to my Mom, then when I came in simply asked how my day was. Eventually I left after she told me how much of a burden on my family I was.

Has anyone else experienced a "Bad T"?

I started seeing a psychologist October 2013. It has been an okay expirence, and I don't really go to talk about stuff it is mainly to see how my medicine is working. However I have brought up how I get angry and other things and he doesn't really elaborate or try to help solve that issue. Alot of the appointment is quiet or like he trying to waste time with BS.

I have been changing meds mainly because I had bad weight gain withthe first one. And recently thought of finding another psyc doctor, especially after this (the main point of this story) last visit I mentioned the new medicine may be making me more irritable to my mom and boyfriend, at one point he said ,' would he [my boyfriend] rather you he thin and mean or chubby and nice.' I told him turthfully, chubby and nice and he acted like he was taken back from that. Like relationships are only based on looks. I found that sooooooo rude.

so anyways, sometimes you have to try different doctors untill you connect with one. If this is something that will hope don't let a bad experience hold you back!! GOOD LUCK

[InTheProcess]

Also that was really terrible for her to say. I don't think id have the guts to go back to her to say something but I would discuss it with my mom. Again,

[TheHiddenAngel]

No bad T experiences (haven't been to one yet) but I have had bad GP experiences. ^^;

[Xenon]

I've had three unhelpful experiences. Of the three, there was one in which the counsellor seemed truly inept. The others I can chalk up to 'not the right fit' or 'wasn't ready,', but this one guy...ugh. It took me over three years to try again afterward. I wrote about the experience on a review website. I'm still kind of angry about it.

[thatssomething]

The first pdoc I ever saw told me that I had too many issues and my past is too complicated and that she couldn't deal with me (this was at the school health center)

Second only talked about my parents... Ever. Sure I have family issues(who doesnt) but I live 500 miles away from them and they are by far not my biggest concern.

Current pdoc is nice but she always tells me what to do and tries to solve my problems and never really wants to talk about anything plus she takes phone calls during almost every session (today was a rare appointment because she didnt) she also compares me to her other patients which is weird, interrupts me when I'm talking and tries to pressure me into taking meds I don't want.

I'm currently looking for someone else that I can see for real therapy and just see her for meds but I don't even know where to start with that.

[AllonsY]

A few weeks ago (where I go it's a "team" set-up) I wrote like a 3 page thing requesting a new therapist if that says anything (and haven't seen that one since then).

She'd forget basic information about my life that's really important (including me constantly having to correct her that I've been seeing therapists 14 years while she kept implying she was the first one), constantly asked if I'm doing drugs, at the end of appointments being pushy about me trying to figure out some "ahh!" revelation for that appointment. Totally ignoring serious issues I have to give me totally useless advice and talk about unrelated things.

Was just weird.