FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Member
Member Since Jun 2014
Location: England
Posts: 359
9 119 hugs
given |
#1
Out of interest, what would you think of someone who was very 'gushing' with everyone they met, kind of like 'Hi beautiful, how are you darling? That's great honeybunch.' This is even done in work to people they barely know. I find it quite weird to be so overfamilar.
|
Reply With Quote |
Pandita-in-training
Member Since Sep 2006
Location: Maryland
Posts: 27,289
(SuperPoster!)
17 550 hugs
given |
#2
Some people just seem to have that style. I occasionally find it annoying, otherwise it does make me smile, it is so over the top and seemingly (to me) silly. Mostly I find it annoying when it is used on me or too soon after I see it used on another in exactly the same way, as if I am just like the other.
__________________ "Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius |
Reply With Quote |
Carpe Diem
Member Since Aug 2012
Location: New England, USA
Posts: 4,312
11 631 hugs
given |
#3
I don't like being called honey by anyone! Uggg I especially dislike it when someone is over familiar. It totally turns me off.
|
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Jun 2014
Location: England
Posts: 359
9 119 hugs
given |
#4
I find it odd to be so overfamilar to the point where it sounds kind of nauseating and inappropriate. Unprofessional in the workplace as well.
|
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Jul 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 242
10 23 hugs
given |
#5
I can't stand it.
I dislike it enough coming from my own family, but tolerate it. In my workplace there is one chap who calls all the women pet or sweetheart it just makes me gag. We also have a "toucher", she thinks nothing of grabbing you round the waist, rubbing your lower back or patting your backside. I know I am overly sensitive to this stuff, makes me want to cry and puke, but I agree no place for it in the work place |
Reply With Quote |
anon20141119
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Jan 2012
Location: rochester, michigan
Posts: 3,111
12 60 hugs
given |
#6
It is called having no boundaries, so it is up to the people being touched, etc...to SAY something. That isn't being oversensitive; when people violate our physical or emotional boundaries, we need to make them aware that this kind of behavior is INappropriate.
As for the "toucher"---what I would do? I would say in a LOUD voice, please do not grab me or WHY are you touching my backside? This is a SHE?! |
Reply With Quote |
Living Entity
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: La La Land
Posts: 28,949
(SuperPoster!)
9 2,365 hugs
given |
#7
If it is on the job, complain to your supervisor. I had this happen one time. A guy that called all women "sweetie". The boss sent out a memo asking us to address each other with respect.
__________________ |
Reply With Quote |
-
Member Since Feb 2013
Location: -
Posts: 3,115
11 |
#8
I think "touchers" are starved for human contact. I don't like being touched at all, but I can understand their perspective.
|
Reply With Quote |
waiting4
|
Member
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: Michigan
Posts: 25
9 2 hugs
given |
#9
This is an interesting one!
Last year I met a couple who are friendly and kind. The husband calls me darlin' and gives me a hug... in front of his wife and my husband. We are getting along nicely as friends and he's a talker like me. We have some very interesting conversations which I thouroughly enjoy. At first I thought his behaviour was somewhat OTT but, now that I'm getting to know him I find him one of the most sincere and caring persons that I've met in a long time. I come from Britain and we are not so demonstrative but I can forgive his somewhat gushiness under the circumstances and take it all in a light hearted way. |
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 78
9 2 hugs
given |
#10
It's a good ol American southern thing, darlin.
|
Reply With Quote |
Scottishmist, waiting4
|
Poohbah
Member Since Nov 2010
Posts: 1,018
13 215 hugs
given |
#11
I find this typical of the British to be honest...generally speaking we're not keen on these sorts of emotional displays. You've only got to look at the scores of people who go out of their way to avoid eye contact on the tube. I don't really have a problem with it per se...i think sincerity is obvious, and if you're not sincere yeah it can be uncomfortable but otherwise i think most adjust to it reasonably fast and at worst find it an occasional annoyance.
|
Reply With Quote |
waiting4
|
Member
Member Since Jun 2014
Location: England
Posts: 359
9 119 hugs
given |
#12
]This woman I know calls EVERYONE the same names as well so it sounds really insincere as well as nauseating.
|
Reply With Quote |
Magnate
Member Since Jun 2010
Location: USA
Posts: 2,283
13 2,137 hugs
given |
#13
I find that behavior pretty refreshing in a world that sometimes feels about as demonstrative and friendly as a lump of concrete. I get the urge to give these expressive people a reassuring hug.
HOWEVER... People who are extremely friendly, with everyone, all the time, may face two consequences: (1) It looks like they're not really paying attention to people sometimes. Hi, I'm having a horrible day, I just explained this, why are you acting like it's all sunshine and rainbows? Am I not actually here? (2) I can imagine that sooner or later people assume they're being flirted with!!! If you don't want a flirty response back, please, back off the uber friendliness just a bit. "Onwards honeybunch darling" within two seconds of first meeting me might incline me to think there's more than "Hello" going on. So it is kind of refreshing to me, but it can also get as confusing as people who are always gloomy, grumpy, stone-faced, pushy, or severely reserved. There's a time and a place for everything I guess. |
Reply With Quote |
healingme4me, waiting4
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Jan 2012
Location: rochester, michigan
Posts: 3,111
12 60 hugs
given |
#14
I am a hugger, kisser. touchy-feely; but I have a sense when someone doesnt want to be hugged.
|
Reply With Quote |
Account Suspended
Member Since Jun 2014
Location: South Overshoe
Posts: 7,657
(SuperPoster!)
9 |
#15
I let those people know they might find a more enjoyable conversation somewhere else.
|
Reply With Quote |
Lady Courtesan
|
IrisBloom
|
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#16
Quote:
|
|
Reply With Quote |
Junior Member
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: Florida
Posts: 13
9 |
#17
I agree that it is not appropriate in the work place, however under other circumstances I don't find it weird. Then again, I'm in the US and in the South. We tend to be pretty huggy, darlin' and sweetie callin' type of people for the most part. Now I would give someone the side eye if they told me "sweetie, oh bless your heart" , otherwise it's just what I grew up with as "normal".
__________________ Bipolar Meds Bupropion HCL XL 300mg Lamotrigine 200mg Clonazapem 0.5mg Spondylolisthesis Meds Gabapentin 300mg Baclofen 10mg |
Reply With Quote |
waiting4
|
Member
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: arizona
Posts: 150
9 17 hugs
given |
#18
Quote:
|
|
Reply With Quote |
Account Suspended
Member Since Dec 2013
Location: American Southwest
Posts: 1,277
10 28 hugs
given |
#19
|
Reply With Quote |
lizardlady
|
Member
Member Since Jun 2014
Location: England
Posts: 359
9 119 hugs
given |
#20
I guess because she says it to everyone it seems fake and insincere as well as unprofessional in the workplace.
|
Reply With Quote |
Reply |
|