[Nicks_Nose]

We often seem pulled toward or attracted to certain people and sometimes we try to be liked by a certain group. I have to ask this question:

Why are we drawn to people who have no interest in ourselves? Is it something we associate with them that they have and we want? Self confidence? Status/Connections? Beauty? Knowledge/Intelligence? Money? Strength?

Why do we humble ourselves and elevate others when we have abilities that they do not? Shouldn't they show equal respect for your abilities and gifts in order to be admired back? If they do not.....move on.

[Travelinglady]

Hi, Nicks Nose! Good to hear from you! I think what you have suggested is likely true. We like to be seen around successful/smart/good-looking people and want them to like us because we think we will also be elevated in other people's eyes (higher status), and yes, because we think there will be other payoffs. Good-looking people even are nice to just look at, and that's a payoff in itself!

I agree. We should try to recognize our own skills and assets, and move on if the other folks aren't attracted to us.

My thoughts, anyway.