[Nicks_Nose]

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I have been curious about sexual fantasies and how people can fantasize about certain behaviour, or lifestyles, and be excited by it and yet, in real life, the thoughts of performing such acts could never be considered. What differs between people who fantasize and yet can separate it from real life actions, and others who begin to explore these fantasies and act out on them? Is it a difference of genetic structures? Chemical imbalances? Degree of brain stimulation is on specific area? Is it simply situationsl where social norms or conditions in a person's life create an opportunity and temptation to initiate such behaviour?

If a person doesn't consider the act acceptable in real life, why would they be turned on by it in fantasies?

[Altered Moment]

Hmmmm those are good questions. I don't know the answers. I often use sexual fantasy as a distraction from depression but they are things I would act on in real life and I guess would be considered acceptable by society.

I have read that with porn addiction people will move on to more and more "taboo" or violent porn to get the same rush. Similar to drug addiction in that I was always chasing a more intense high. Something that packed more punch. I have a good friend who is concerned about porn addiction and said that is true for him. That doesn't really go to your question though.

[vonmoxie]

It's therapy of a sort for some people. For instance, sometimes a person who is in a position of power, who has to be "on" all day, constantly looked to for answers and direction, might get an especially big release out of the idea of being in complete sexual submission, to someone else who is instead making all the decisions. And someone who is to some degree bisexual but who prefers one persuasion and is monogamous, might end up fantasizing more with regard to the sexuality that is not present in their relationship.

Whether or not it's healthy for any one person varies, I think, and is unique to each person and to the manner in which their fantasy life exists. I think it can be a very healthy thing to satisfy various desires through fantasy; but people can also get carried away. I'm not sure there's any one difference though, between those who act out fantasies in real-time, and those who keep it to themselves. Some may only need be presented with a safe and consensual opportunity to act out a fantasy, in order to make the leap; others may be content to work it out on their own.

[Nicks_Nose]

I have found that I fantasize more when I am sexually active with a mn in my life. When I am not involved and not seeking a relationship, I do not think much of intimate encounters. I often thought it would be the opposite. A person would fantasize more if there was less activity in real life. However in my life it seems to be the opposite.

[debdeb24]

wow, this is so weird. This is something I've always wondered about but was afraid to ask anyone. Even my therapist. I have fantasies that involve things I would never ever do myself. I feel as if I'm the only one in the world that thinks that way. BTW, I hate sex with men very much, but would never ever consider going with a woman. I just hate sex, any and all kinds of sex.

[Nicks_Nose]

I have also wondered if fantasizing increases during the lead-up to the monthly for females and whether or not there are high and low periods each month for men as well.

How many of these thoughts are biologically triggered such as hormones/biochemical imbalances, environmentally triggered by visual or other sensory stimulants, instead of life experiences such as parenting styles or social norms of the community one grew up in.

I know that certain medications, whether prescription or over the counter meds, can often influence dream patterns. Could such medications also be influencing fantasies?

[Nicks_Nose]

I found a decent article on the topic, if anybody is interested in readinig about it.

Sick Secret Sexual Fantasies | Psychology Today

[MuseumGhost]

I have heard or read that women can change in what kind of man they fantasize about, too, depending on where their hormones are at in any given month.

Supposedly, we desire more macho, "tough guys" earlier in our cycle; and sensitive, understanding men, later, after our period.

At least, I think that's how it goes.