[bubbles00]

basically my problem is stated in the title.

Whenever I drop my pencil, eraser, paper (whatever it is) and I look like I'm about to cry. My lips quiver and people notice this too. I don't know why I do this... Does anybody else do this? It makes me seem so dumb....

Edit: and it's not like I'm actually going to cry. There are no tears. I kinda just 'automatically' do this.

[Angelique67]

Hi, it sounds like there's some anxiety either not recognized when you drop things, or fear of the unwanted attention?

[bubbles00]

i don't think it's the fear for unwanted attention. maybe it's anxiety but i have no idea. I never realized i ever did this until one of my friends pointed this out (thats when i started noticing that i did this from then onwards). And i have no idea how i stop doing this cuz it just kinda happens.

[Angelique67]

Well, people have pointed out things I did and caused me to be more self conscious, which wasn't good. Is this something that really bothers you now? It's not shameful!

[bubbles00]

it does really bother me i guess it can't be helped...

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by bubbles00

it does really bother me i guess it can't be helped...

Questions (if you don't mind):

-How often are you really dropping things that this has become a serious issue/concern for you?

-If someone else dropped something in your immediate vicinity - would the act of watching those circumstances play out evoke the same response from you?

-Did you ever experience any incidents in your younger years when you dropped something that was important or valuable? Any type of embarrassing situation concerning dropping something in the presence of others?

Originally Posted by bubbles00

basically my problem is stated in the title.

Whenever I drop my pencil, eraser, paper (whatever it is) and I look like I'm about to cry. My lips quiver and people notice this too. I don't know why I do this... Does anybody else do this? It makes me seem so dumb....

Edit: and it's not like I'm actually going to cry. There are no tears. I kinda just 'automatically' do this.

Yes I used to do this. The secret to stopping this problem is to keep your mouth open when you feel this coming on. Then there is no quivering or drawing of the lips. it's a simple trick which i have used to totally conquer the problem.

[bubbles00]

Originally Posted by wolfgaze

Questions (if you don't mind):

-How often are you really dropping things that this has become a serious issue/concern for you?

-If someone else dropped something in your immediate vicinity - would the act of watching those circumstances play out evoke the same response from you?

-Did you ever experience any incidents in your younger years when you dropped something that was important or valuable? Any type of embarrassing situation concerning dropping something in the presence of others?

1. I'm very clumsy so I'm occasionally dropping things but it's nothing 'serious' per se.
2. i don't think i do this when somebody else drops something.
3. I know i have dropped a lot of things like plates and vases and my mom would yell at me a lot but I don't remember any particular event right off the bat (there might've been an event that might've caused me embarassment but i dont remember atm).

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Yes I used to do this. The secret to stopping this problem is to keep your mouth open when you feel this coming on. Then there is no quivering or drawing of the lips. it's a simple trick which i have used to totally conquer the problem.

Thank you IT. I will try that next time it happens

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by bubbles00

3. I know i have dropped a lot of things like plates and vases and my mom would yell at me a lot but I don't remember any particular event right off the bat (there might've been an event that might've caused me embarassment but i dont remember atm).

My line of thinking is that I was wondering if you are associating 'dropping things' with a certain emotional response linked to a prior experience in your life. Like if you felt a strong emotion linked to a particular incident and now when you drop things it reminds you of that emotion and thus it's almost like an unconscious, automatic reaction.....

Just brainstorming....

[bubbles00]

Originally Posted by wolfgaze

My line of thinking is that I was wondering if you are associating 'dropping things' with a certain emotional response linked to a prior experience in your life. Like if you felt a strong emotion linked to a particular incident and now when you drop things it reminds you of that emotion and thus it's almost like an unconscious, automatic reaction.....

Just brainstorming....

I see... I don't remember any incident that might be making me do this but that's interesting. hmmm this actually makes me wonder what's causing this...

[wolfgaze]

Originally Posted by bubbles00

I see... I don't remember any incident that might be making me do this but that's interesting. hmmm this actually makes me wonder what's causing this...

You've got me really wondering too

[avlady]

Originally Posted by Angelique67

Well, people have pointed out things I did and caused me to be more self conscious, which wasn't good. Is this something that really bothers you now? It's not shameful!

it probably makes your muscular system work in an odd way

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by bubbles00

I know i have dropped a lot of things like plates and vases and my mom would yell at me a lot but I don't remember any particular event right off the bat (there might've been an event that might've caused me embarassment but i dont remember atm).

There is your answer. If your Mom yelled at you a lot as a child when you dropped things then subconsciously you are expecting to be yelled at again. It may be a good idea to talk this through with a therapist.

[queer bp2]

I would suggest doing some Cognative Behavioral therapy to try to understand what thoughts are going on before it happens.