[Hopemarie825]

I have an ex-boyfriend who I broke up with 5 years ago, we were both in very bad places at the time and the relationship had no chance anyway. For the last 4 and a half years however, he continues to reignite the relationship. His reasoning is that he has never had a the connection sexually that he had with me. He goes on to say that no other woman could satisfy and often times he had to think of me to finish the act. Now while I do admit, we did have a very satisfying sexual relationship, I do not remember it being so mind blowing that I could not be pleased by another man. My question is he has once again tried to reignite this relationship, and I have to say there is something flattering about being a mans "perfect lover" and I may want to give this relationship another go, I feel at the very least I can give him a more realistic view of who I am and if it does not work out he can finally move on. I do feel that his fixation on me might be a bit unhealthy. Additionally, I am concerned I can not live up to this unrealistic ideal he has of me. Can you give me some advice on what to do? I really do not want to get into something unhealthy for either of us.

[jelly-bean]

I am no shrink but this relationship does not sound very healthy to me. It sounds sort of like he may be using you to fill in when he has no other girlfriend. I'm sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear but maybe it's for the best. You need to just end the relationship for good and all and find a man who will love you in every way and not just sexually.