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Old Jan 19, 2015, 02:26 PM
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My parents are preachers, and they expect me to talk to them if I have any problems. But I haven't talked to them about my problems in over four years. I don't feel comfortable enough with them, to talk to them about it. They'd just say that I have nothing to be upset or depressed about anyways. That what I think is a big deal is really just some stupid little thing. But to me it isn't. And I don't have any friends I can talk to about stuff like this. So that leaves no one other than myself. What am I supposed to do?
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Old Jan 19, 2015, 04:45 PM
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Hi miss you, therapy is a great tool to "talk it out". Also, making friends through PC or using the forums to vent are also ideas. Wishing you well, love&light.
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Old Jan 20, 2015, 03:51 AM
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Hi.

Don't allow anyone to dismiss your emotions as they are justified and valid. If you feel you can, try with one parent who is most likely to be supportive. If not, try a school counselor. If not, search for mental health services in your town, county or nearby city. Try using a phrase like sliding scale mental health.
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Old Jan 20, 2015, 04:09 AM
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don't let anyone dismiss your emotions is a great way to put it striking
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Old Jan 20, 2015, 11:21 AM
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It's hard when told to not be depressed, especially by your parents. Is there a school counselor that you can talk too for starters?
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Old Jan 21, 2015, 12:35 PM
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Hey Imissyou

It's exactly like striking said. Don't let anyone dismiss your emotions. We are all human. We all have feelings. Nobody can tell us what we are feeling is not real.

My parents are that way too. Invalidating. As a result I learned that what I have to say doesn’t really matter since they get their way by preaching anyway. I don’t think I’ve ever told my parents what has really been going on in my life for 8 years. I just filter out all the bad stuff and tell them only the good news. I know it is really frustrating not being able to talk about with is on your mind. I think you would really benefit from finding some sort of outlet.

For some people, writing in journals helps. It can be cathartic to channel some of your thoughts out. If that doesn’t sound like something you’d be interested in trying, I’m willing to listen to your story and give you advice that’s been passed along to me from this community. Everyone here on PC is really friendly, so I hope that you can find someone you can relate to and confide in...or at least some new way to express yourself.

You are not alone We will all support you <3
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Old Jan 21, 2015, 04:40 PM
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If there is no one that knows you that you feel comfortable talking to, therapists or councelors are always a good option. They don't know you so they do not have a biased opinion of you and they are great and giving good advice and looking at the situation in all aspects.
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Old Jan 21, 2015, 05:54 PM
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My parents are preachers, and they expect me to talk to them if I have any problems. But I haven't talked to them about my problems in over four years. I don't feel comfortable enough with them, to talk to them about it. They'd just say that I have nothing to be upset or depressed about anyways. That what I think is a big deal is really just some stupid little thing. But to me it isn't. And I don't have any friends I can talk to about stuff like this. So that leaves no one other than myself. What am I supposed to do?
Well sweety, you have us to talk too. If it weren't for here, I'd be talking to my chihuahua. She listens well but her advice sux.
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Old Jan 21, 2015, 06:14 PM
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Well sweety, you have us to talk too. If it weren't for here, I'd be talking to my chihuahua. She listens well but her advice sux.
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Dogs do provide nice moral support though ~
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Old Jan 23, 2015, 12:37 AM
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First, thank you to everyone replied. This is the first time that I've felt as if there's someone that actually cares about me. I usually just talk to my vast, Cookie, but he got sick and died on Tuesday. And now I have no one. I can't talk to anyone in my family. Nobody would understand. The only friend I would even feel comfortable talking to, lives in another state, and I don't think I should let her know what is going on with me over the phone. I only have my chihuahuas now. And, I keep feeling angry. And I keep getting into arguments with my family and friends, until nobody wants to talk to me. I sit in my bedroom all day, just so I don't end up being around anything that makes me want to end it all, once again. Even though that's been happening more and more lately. Every single day, actually. I had a bit of a breakdown earlier, too. I got into an argument with my dad, and he started yelling at me, so I waited for him to stop and then I went upstairs, and started crying, and I grabbed this miniature screwdriver, and I made a few cuts on my.arms and legs. I felt soooo much better. I felt free. Like I could do anything. And I know that it was probably wrong. Everything I do is.. But I'm only sixteen. How else an I supposed to deal with it all???

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Old Jan 23, 2015, 12:43 AM
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It's hard when told to not be depressed, especially by your parents. Is there a school counselor that you can talk too for starters?
No, there isn't. My parents thought that it'd be a good idea to homeschool me, and my sisters. And that's another thing. I want so badly to go back to my school. I want to graduate with my class next year. But I don't want to let myself hope anything, because with my luck, it won't happen. So basically, I'm stuck in the same house with people that I'm certain totally hate me, and I am only asked to have my phone every couple of months. So I can't talk to anyone, on a regular basis... I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. I mean, nobody cares about me while I'm alive... Why would they care if I'm dead???
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Old Jan 23, 2015, 08:38 AM
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First, thank you to everyone replied. This is the first time that I've felt as if there's someone that actually cares about me. I usually just talk to my vast, Cookie, but he got sick and died on Tuesday. And now I have no one. I can't talk to anyone in my family. Nobody would understand. The only friend I would even feel comfortable talking to, lives in another state, and I don't think I should let her know what is going on with me over the phone. I only have my chihuahuas now. And, I keep feeling angry. And I keep getting into arguments with my family and friends, until nobody wants to talk to me. I sit in my bedroom all day, just so I don't end up being around anything that makes me want to end it all, once again. Even though that's been happening more and more lately. Every single day, actually. I had a bit of a breakdown earlier, too. I got into an argument with my dad, and he started yelling at me, so I waited for him to stop and then I went upstairs, and started crying, and I grabbed this miniature screwdriver, and I made a few cuts on my.arms and legs. I felt soooo much better. I felt free. Like I could do anything. And I know that it was probably wrong. Everything I do is.. But I'm only sixteen. How else an I supposed to deal with it all???
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Old Jan 23, 2015, 12:21 PM
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Yes please call and talk with someone. You already took one step with us now take another.
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Old Jan 23, 2015, 12:25 PM
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Yes, calling the Crisis Center is a way to not be ignored. Please do it. This can lead to the treatment you need.
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