[coyotee]

I've been learning a lot about black and white thinking, since I took a borderline personality test, and scored relatively high, and I can't quite wrap my head around it..

Honestly, I'm not so sure I'm borderline. But I digress.

My problem, for years now, and building even more so now, is that I can't form an opinion on hardly anything..

There are some disagreements I have with people that makes me think in black an white. I have an opinion on them, and if it's negative, it may stay there, but it always eventually goes back into the gray about how I feel about them. I suppose out of empathy, no matter how horrible they may seem to me, I can rationalize they aren't completely bad.

But when it comes to having a personality, I don't have one. I don't have:

a political position
a stance on political issues
a stance on mainstream news coverages
a definitive religious affiliation
a stance on religion

The list goes on and on and on. I am actually feeling a lot of distress now because I can't form opinions. There is to me always gray area.

And for a long time, this has been ok, because I think it has kept me very open minded.

But now I feel like I have no identity..

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi.

"But when it comes to having a personality, I don't have one."

This is not entirely the truth.

I can tell a few things about you from your post already.

The measures you are using to hold the standards against whether or not you have a personality are not things one should place against the measure of personality? How do we measure those type of results?

I had a "political dispostion" one may view my personality as dictatorship? I don't think I want to use this as a measure?

A stance on mainstream newscoverage? We are all entitled to opinions. Maybe you don't know enough around certain events to make judgments or have opinon on events?

Religious affiliation? Well maybe circumstances altered your religious view point?

I am just not really sure what you have used in examples as measure of your personality make too much sense.

I think your personality is far great than a standard measure of an opinon?

Let me tell you there are plenty of people who have rubbed me the wrong way by having too strong an opinion on certain issues.

You want to know where I see some of the biggest arguments occuring?

Just put two people in the same room who have completely different political opinions - they may not agree to disagree politely.

Put an atheist and a devout religious person in the same room? Who is right? Who is right to be the judge of what we believe to be true or false? Are we allowed to form our own opionions? If we don't have much of an opinon on something is this not because this just may not be really significant for us?

Is it just not merely an indicator that you're not into politics? (I'm not it bores me to death). Is it not just merely an indicator that you don't find religion all that fascinating and that you have other interests?

I think that you sound like quite an interesting person.

I really enjoyed reading your post.

And I am suspecting that perhaps you judge yourself too harshly.

You come across as being quite friendly to me.

I think you are open minded.

But I think you are limiting yourself when you "define" your own personality.

I think you must embrace freedom.

The freedom and the right that you have to think that well perhaps politics isn't something that you really value?

Can you focus on what you do value as opposed to pointing out those things that don't interest you too much?

I think that this may help you.

[pegasus]

Yes, Hooligan has basically said it all. Being open-minded/objective is a really good thing in my book!

[Thunder Bow]

Intelligent people are the last to be closed minded, or be narrow thinkers. You are intelligent, and a thinker. You do not want to ever think in black and white. It is not a black and white universe. To find your identity, try drawing your name, rather than writing it. A Vision Quest might help you, if you are feeling really lost.

[Perna]

Rather than opinion, I think of it as caring? I don't care about politics or formal religion or a lot of other things? Find what you like (or don't like), what you care about, that will help show you your opinions. If someone asks you, "How do you feel about X" and you don't, say that, "I don't" as in, "I don't think about that but ask me about Y?" (something you care about.