[hopeless85]

My 20 yr old son's girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with him. She refuses to speak to him. He is trying to get me to persuade her to speak to him. I don't blame her for breaking up with him. He used her and treated he like crap. He suffers from anxiety and depression. For the past year he had been drinking heavily and became aggressive. He had cut back and now has stopped for 3 weeks but does weed.
He was always asking her for money for weed and would never pay her back. He was ugly to her and would take her things until she gave in to him. I understand her totally. I am scared to death that he will hurt himself.

[pegasus]

Hello hopeless85, it is so difficult when you are stuck in the middle like that. He has to learn and start to make the changes himself. We do have a Partners of People & Caregivers Support forum, you might like to check out. Please take care of you in this and if you feel he is a danger to himself or others, then you need to get help immediately and call the police so that he can receive the correct treatment.

[hopeless85]

He somehow convinced her again to give him another chance. I tried talking with him but who knows if he really listens. He is so selfish, non caring about anyone but himself, etc. It is always what he wants. He is going to continue to see the therapist so that is a plus. He seems good yesterday but that is because she is giving him another chance. She sounded very serious about not the night before so not sure how he manipulated her again.

[avlady]

i sure hope she wakes up and smells the roses before it's too late, not to be mean but your son needs to take responsibility for his actions and soon. nothing is your fault

[Thunder Bow]

How is he manipulating you?