[Buangko]

A female friend of mine in the Philippines has been chatting with a man she connected with online for about 2 months. He is telling her that he's in love with her and wants to marry her already and they haven't even met yet. This sounds to me (a layman) like the way a predator or psychopath comes on strong to gain control of a victim.

Your thoughts?

[Thunder Bow]

Could be a con man after her money.

[FallDuskTrain]

I wouldn’t go as far as saying he is a psychopath and I think it is irrelevant because the situation already sounds fishy. The situation seems negative either way, psychopath, maniac or a con man.
I hope you can convince your friend that she is in a dangerous path.

I wouldn't get psychopath out of that at all to be honest. Maybe he's out to scam her or hurt her. Maybe he just has really strong emotions and really does believe he is in love. Its hard to say, but we should all exercise caution with people on the internet.

[~Christina]

Sounds like a possible creepy guy , or it could be anyone pretending to be who ever.

Personally I would stop communicating with them problem solved.

Psychopath ? I don’t think so.

[Loose Screw x 2]

It's hard to say but, two moths of chatting online is not usually enough to start to genuinely love someone. You have to spend time with people in person before you get to that point. TheSadGirl has a point though. He may just be one of those people who believe that he really is in love. Sounds to me like he's either a very needy person or he's up to no good. A guy did someone in my family that way in the pre-internet days and she bought all of his bull and came away from that relationship very hurt. Just stick by your friend and caution her that at the very least she should have this person checked out to see if they have any kind of bad history. Not trying to scare you but, the internet is filled with all kinds of bad people and I mean the really bad ones that nobody likes to think about. Make sure that your friend realizes this and decides to be cautious from here on out.

[tecomsin]

I agree with the views of everyone who has already commented. You don't know who you are dealing with when it is only online. Psychopath is a possibility but so are many other ones, including him being a very needy or controlling person. He could have a personality disorder or have a criminal intent. If he's suggesting marriage already that is a very bad sign. It really is... a giant red flag. Try to get your friend to ask herself what kind of person would do that and get out of the online relationship.

[IA_2809]

Have you considered the chance he's not a psycho freak but just awkwardly naive and clueless about his confused emotions and the way they're perceived? Or that you're seeing your friend in an overly condescending tone, assuming she's not directly asking you for help and that she's in control of her actions?

Said that, she'd get an idea by remarking concrete limits to her independent behavior (for example, in financial terms by keeping a job/secure income, as in emotional ones by staying open and connected to her family, your or other friends views). If he gets pissed off at that, it'll show he's seeking a dominant role and settle his intentions.