[annoyedgrunt84]

I'm afraid I might objectively just be a bad person and I don't know what to do about it. I owe people money I've never paid back for example, I let the cat box get terrible before I break down and clean it, I let my work slide, and I can be terribly cynical and lazy at times. I'm pretty sure I have a form the of depression but I don't think this makes anything I have done OK.

[Skeezyks]

From the Skeezyks' perspective... you just know...

There are a few adjectives I'd use to describe those behaviors. I don't use "bad." It's broad and generic. However, I'd go with Edgelord for a noun.

[_Alana_]

Everyone messes something up or even does something "bad" sometimes, and usually it doesn't make them a bad person.
Imo, people that are truly bad don't care that what they do is considered bad, they might even like what they do. You being worried about this stuff sounds like you're not a bad person. Just forgetful and tired/lazy, or something like that. And the things you mentioned aren't really that bad, it's not like you're actually stealing and seriously abusing your cat.. It's still pretty normal stuff

Sounds like fear and procrastination to me.

'Bad' would come from the perspective of those around you and you would have to observe their own behavior to guage whether this is true.

As for the things you mentioned, it seems you are aware of these problems and know what the answers are or what has to be done to resolve it. The debts are a problem. Endeavor to not take this further - and to make some sort of repayment plan. It is important to your friends that you are not simply shirking your responsibility and don't care.

If these are the extent of your "bad" behaviors, they are all certainly things you can work on and improve. I would certainly not say that any of those behaviors make you a "bad person."

[Thunder Bow]

Only the Cat would think you are a bad person.

[hadleyrae]

Originally Posted by annoyedgrunt84

I'm afraid I might objectively just be a bad person and I don't know what to do about it. I owe people money I've never paid back for example, I let the cat box get terrible before I break down and clean it, I let my work slide, and I can be terribly cynical and lazy at times. I'm pretty sure I have a form the of depression but I don't think this makes anything I have done OK.

Bad and good are totally subjective; everyone's opinions of what's bad and what's good will be different somehow. If you've done something that violates your conscience and it's bothering you, the best thing you can do is try to make it right and do better next time. So maybe save up and pay people back; I had a friend who felt guilty for something like this and ended up apologizing with a letter and sending money about 10 years later. The thing that matters is that she did everything she could.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Originally Posted by annoyedgrunt84

I'm afraid I might objectively just be a bad person and I don't know what to do about it. I owe people money I've never paid back for example, I let the cat box get terrible before I break down and clean it, I let my work slide, and I can be terribly cynical and lazy at times. I'm pretty sure I have a form the of depression but I don't think this makes anything I have done OK.

Sounds like a species of depression to me, best get a proper diagnosis - it is said that therapy is a useful addition to anti-depressants.

Doubt you are a bad person, but even bad people can become better ones, hard to do on your own.

[-jimi-]

I know I'm a bad person, but it is sort of fine. Everyone is a bad person. I have never met a truly good person. They don't exist.

[KarenSue]

Originally Posted by -jimi-

I know I'm a bad person, but it is sort of fine. Everyone is a bad person. I have never met a truly good person. They don't exist.

"Let he who is without sin throw the first stone." None of us is perfect. From the posts I've seen of yous -jimi-, I don't think you are bad at all. I think you are honest, and that is the best "GOOD trait" there is.

I have bad traits, but I am a good person. I think that could be said of a lot of people.

[TishaBuv]

Very simply, if you have been called A hole by many people, you may be a bad person.

But, say you were raised in a culture of thieves, and you were a very good thief, does that makes you a bad person?

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by annoyedgrunt84

I'm afraid I might objectively just be a bad person and I don't know what to do about it. I owe people money I've never paid back for example, I let the cat box get terrible before I break down and clean it, I let my work slide, and I can be terribly cynical and lazy at times. I'm pretty sure I have a form the of depression but I don't think this makes anything I have done OK.

The people I've met I'd describe as "bad" didn't appear to have any question about their own badness--they didn't seem to think they were bad--everyone else were fools, dupes, or victims to be abused.

You might consider you have anxiety and depression; both can cause procrastination.

[ScientiaOmnisEst]

This is a surprisingly easy question I was thinking about this morning.

Are you perfect?

Are you always right about everything, do people hate you for being so infallibly brilliant and creative you make them look bad? Is your IQ over 150, so everyone and everything is slow, boring and primitive to you?

Do you excel at everything you do, are practically an expert at everything you touch?

In addition to the above (it must be present), are you athletic and beautiful?

Do you have perfect willpower and morality; do you take every pain and withstand every discomfort necessary to live up to your moral ideal? Can you, in complete honesty, say you have never missed a workout or eaten a bad food? Would you throw away the entire life you desire because it was proven to be morally inferior to something you don't want or care about? Conversely, are you amoral, indifferent to who you hurt or what the effects of your actions are?

Are you emotionless? Do you approach the world with logic and reason alone? Do you shun relationships as beneath you (or simply because no one is on your level)?

If the answer to any of the above is no, then you're a bad person.