[rdgrad15]

I get it, no friendship lasts forever. I actually have seen so many friendships end, as well as having friendships I've been in end as well that I basically no longer believe in friends forever. I don't think there is such a thing anymore. The only thing I've wondered is when a friend cuts you off without warning and doesn't even tell you why or when, is that a sign they never really cared much for you in the first place or that they were not a real friend? How did you deal with it? Do some people who do this may be too afraid to tell you if you did something wrong so they cut you off instead? I just wondered. I feel like that is what hurts the most. I've had a couple friendships that just simply phased out. Nothing bad happened, no bad blood or arguments. Just simply lost contact. And there was no pain. Not only that, but I don't resent them either. I still respect them if I see them and have even made small talk a few times.

Maybe it is harsh, but people who end a friendship without warning or explanation, I feel, is kind of a cowardly thing to do. If they don't want to be friends, then fine. But I feel like just shutting someone out without warning or giving them a reason is kind of rude and disrespectful and can cause resentment. For those who have done it to me, I lost respect for those people and unlike those who just simply phased out, I would be less willing to rekindle a friendship or at least not be as close since I wouldn't be able to trust them in knowing whether or not they would ditch me again without warning or explanation. Do you think it is downright disrespectful when a friend does this? Just wondered what your thoughts were on this topic.

[Altarian]

I kind of know where you're coming from. I don't have any friends either, because i don't count the people i know in real life that i only talk to on social media. I would love to have someone i could hang out with but it just isn't meant to be. Most of my friends walked away either because of the ending of my first marriage, my second marriage, birth of my kids or, and this one still blows my mind, because they couldn't accept different theological belief after knowing me and what i am for the last 23 years. I personally understand people change and with that change the interest's they once had with people may go away so they no longer have a connection. I understand sometimes it's best to just walk away from someone if it would make things worse by telling them good bye. But to up and walk away with no reason is just... childish. Even more so if they do this and when see you in public act as if you don't exist or walk a different way to not face you.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Altarian

I kind of know where you're coming from. I don't have any friends either, because i don't count the people i know in real life that i only talk to on social media. I would love to have someone i could hang out with but it just isn't meant to be. Most of my friends walked away either because of the ending of my first marriage, my second marriage, birth of my kids or, and this one still blows my mind, because they couldn't accept different theological belief after knowing me and what i am for the last 23 years. I personally understand people change and with that change the interest's they once had with people may go away so they no longer have a connection. I understand sometimes it's best to just walk away from someone if it would make things worse by telling them good bye. But to up and walk away with no reason is just... childish. Even more so if they do this and when see you in public act as if you don't exist or walk a different way to not face you.

I agree. Yes I can understand it can be hard to be honest. But yeah for people to just up and walk away and then avoid you or act like you don't exist in public is childish in my opinion.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by rdgrad15

I agree. Yes I can understand it can be hard to be honest. But yeah for people to just up and walk away and then avoid you or act like you don't exist in public is childish in my opinion.

Yes, I agree with you. It would be nice if people were upfront or let the friendship simply phase out. It's nice to have closure. I've never had someone act like they don't know me in public. That is childish and bizarre.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

Yes, I agree with you. It would be nice if people were upfront or let the friendship simply phase out. It's nice to have closure. I've never had someone act like they don't know me in public. That is childish and bizarre.

I agree, it is very childish. People who do that make me believe they never liked me as a friend in the first place. What's worse is when someone accuses you of something or getting mad at something you did not do just to have, in their minds, a good reason to end the friendship. A friendship they probably did not want. Have had a couple people do that, they would accuse me of something, end the friendship and then be nice to me without being friends afterwards.

[eyesclosed]

I've experienced this my entire life. I have never had a lasting relationship. I served a purpose and when it was over the relationship ended. My family has done this to me. I don't know why someone did this to you. I would bet your kind, reliable and are nice to others. It affects self esteem, hope,and ambition to pursue other relationships. I wish this was more positive. It's not you it's them.