[Nix]

I just wondered if anybody has any advice for me.

What's a good way to make friends?

I've lost my whole community, which revolved around church, because I no longer want to go to church (any church) and I am also divorcing my husband who is very active at my former church.

I'm recently separated and I've been asked on some dates and I've almost considered going just because I'm so lonely. But I don't want to give the wrong impression, because honestly right now I just need some friends and I don't want the pressure of getting romantically involved with somebody. And I don't do casual sex so that's out.

I have had a small amount of success on meetup.com, but I live in a very rural area so there's not much here to choose from. I'm also working two jobs so I don't have time to volunteer for anything on an ongoing basis.

I'm just looking for somebody to go shopping or hiking with, or to have coffee or whatever. I'm thinking about trying the Bumble BFF app but the one swipe Tinder kind of thing stresses me out.

Is it a bad idea to join a dating site with the "just hang out" or "looking for friends" option? People tell me that it's going to backfire and anybody I find will want more than just a friendship. I really would like to meet someone for an eventual relationship but I want it to evolve from a friendship first. I'm not comfortable with how dating works.

What's a good way to make friends when you're a busy, non religious single mom in a rural area?

[Thunder Bow]

You faced much control in the past and now want to be free independent thinker. You might want to consider moving to a more populated area for work and friends. I do not like how dating works for me as well. Best to be yourself.

[Riggs]

Just wanted to chime in and say that I've heard this exact story so many times. I don't know if you've checked out any secular or atheist groups? I'm just thinking that it might be a good way to connect with people who share both a similar background with you and who are also looking for new friends. For example, you might start by checking out The Thinking Atheist on youtube and listen to some of his podcasts. I've generally found that both Seth and the whole community around TTA is very friendly and welcoming, so that might be a start.

Check the public library. Most libraries have notice boards for upcoming events. social clubs, and groups that meet around a common interest. Is there a support group you can join? I am unsure what you mean about quitting church but perhaps you might also find a group that celebrates/doesn't celebrate according to your changing belief system. Also, are there classes available of interest to you?

[Sunflower123]

I wish you well in making good friends that are a good fit for you.