[CustardCrayzeur]

I am concerned about my friend. They have been in trouble numerous times and even got in trouble with the police for reasons I cannot disclose.
Here are a few more things to know about them:
They are a chronic Liar. They sometimes lie for attention/ to get what they want/ or stay out of trouble. They once told me a massive lie which went on for hours just for their own amusement.
They always say they are going to be famous/ successful and can be quite arrogant.
They are self obsessed, always looking in the mirror, checking how they look. They also never think they're at fault, they play the victim.
They sometimes get very angry, lash out. But after that they act like nothing happened.
They fail to see the consequences of their actions.
They just do really stupid things and don't care about things.
Also: I thought people with ASPD did not cry but the other day my friend told me they got drunk and cried like a baby all cuddled up in bed because they felt empty inside and frustrated/ bored with their family over the Christmas holidays.

Maybe there is nothing with my friend at all, I just want to be sure. Sometimes they can be very normal and appear completely normal. They think there is nothing at all wrong with them, and sometimes I think they're right. I'm not sure though.

[pegasus]

Sorry, we can't diagnose here. If you are concerned about their mental health, perhaps see if they are willing to see a counselor.

Exactly, we are not to - and should not be - make a diagnosis. That is for a professional.

With that said, your friend sounds concerning.

Are you and others able to hold an intervention? Are you able to have an honest discussion with them?

The conversation could go like this?

"I am concerned about you. I've been seeing things happen that are worrying and I care you may find things getting difficult. Have you been noticing things aren't quite as they perhaps should be? This is what I'd like you to do.... I'd like you to talk to someone. Maybe you have an Employee Assistance Plan at work to contact? I hear they are very helpful. Perhaps you might call up your family doctor - I would be willing to go with you if you'd like."

Such words are not demanding and may not be confrontational. If however, your friend does get confrontational you need to be prepared to withdraw from the relationship until they make an effort to seek help or change their behaviour.