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Sep 14, 2019, 06:07 AM
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My bf doesn’t really talk to his family....but his family is always super nice and inviting. They reach out to me for details to holidays and parties etc. he isn’t mean to them, he doesn’t speak negatively of them... Am I wrong for occasionally texting/calling his parents to say hello/ask how they are doing?
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Sep 14, 2019, 07:53 AM
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How does your bf feel about you doing this?
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Sep 14, 2019, 12:41 PM
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He doesn’t think anything of it:/. He just doesn’t like going to see them. As a matter of fact most of his immediate family all have my number BECAUSE hes a pain to get in touch with. But like hes never been angry about it or frustrated or spoke badly abojt them. Idk hes just odd and doesnt like to be around them. Maybe fear of embarrassment? Or idk... i feel like there’s something im missing.. i just also dont want them to think im keeping him from them, or rather that I’m idk siding with him to not see them ya know what i mean? My ex, his family HATED me. Idk maybe because they didnt kniw about me, whatever it was he also didnt really bother with them but he DID have a reason... idk im afraid of being demonized by a family again... but like i dont want to get close to them and have him annoyed because now we’ll be asked to be more involved or like i dont want to break their hearts a dozen times mire because i have to be like “ he said he doesnt want to come to dinner/ have you over”..... |
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Sep 14, 2019, 04:12 PM
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From my perspective, I think the key here is communication between you & your bf. Make sure he knows what you're doing & is okay with it. If he has reservations, try to talk it through & reach a compromise. However, in the end, this is his family. And particularly since the two of you are not married, my thinking at least would be that ultimately the amount of communication you're going to have with his family is up to him. Here are links to 3 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that offer insights into the secrets of happy couples:
The 10 Secrets of Happy Couples Advice From Happy Couples Part 1 | Building Relationship Skills More Advice From Happy Couples - Part 2 | Building Relationship Skills   
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Sep 14, 2019, 05:13 PM
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He doesn’t mind me talking to them though. He just doesn’t want to see them..
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Sep 19, 2019, 02:56 PM
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testing testing
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