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If it was possible to travel back in time and track your old self down and teach yourself about all the mistakes that are about to be made, would you do it? Would you even slap yourself? For me, I would go back to my high school years. I was very naive back then and had trouble telling the difference between someone who was truly a toxic person and someone who may have liked me just fine, but just didn't see me as a friend. Knowing what I know now, I know a lot of trouble could have been saved if I knew all of that back in the past.
I would track myself down and tell myself to use common sense. I would tell myself about the mistakes that are about to be made and may even point out some people or scenarios I should avoid all together. I would also point out the differences between a true friend, a toxic person, and an acquaintance that may like you but not see me as a friend What would you tell your past self? Is there a certain time frame, like high school or something? I know we would all like to go back in time and warn ourselves about stuff that will happen. |
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Oh yes..... I can relate FULLY to this right now!!!!!! Getting married for me was a vast mistake. I had doubts beforehand, but went through with it anyways. And now it's a very toxic relationship for me that I must exit. I WISH I had talked to my former self having doubts, and I wish I had listened to those doubts. I kicked myself for a LONG time over it and beat myself up for not following my gut. Lesson learned!!! The very hard way!!!!!!!
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I'd go back & tell my young self to end it while there was still time...
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Oh okay well I hope the day when you can finally have some peace without him comes as soon as possible.
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I was given those people and circumstances and not others. While some of my history is unfortunate or embarrassing, IDK what might have happened otherwise. So, no, I don’t want to slap myself or change anything. I’m fortunate nothing was a whole other level of something that could have happened, and I’d have a different answer. Mine are and have been just growing pains.
Rgrad, it sounds like you are referring to a person in high school who didn’t see you as a friend that is significant for you. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Yeah I wouldn't want to sacrifice the good stuff. And yeah I learned better.
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i am so filled with regret. i hate myself. and yet i did the best i could. i would go back and kill myself. there was no possible way i could have done better with what i had at the time.
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honestly I think it would be to depressing. I wouldn't really know where to start. I guess if I was to tell my past self 1 thing it would be enjoy life while you can. it only gets harder
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I also would have said no to my husband when he asked that I co-sign a car lease for him. Now that I want a divorce, this is going to be a nightmare.
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