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Default Dec 17, 2020 at 12:01 AM
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Hi. I'm a 30 year old male and have been in quite a few relationships- some serious and some were casual. Currently, I am in a 2 year relationship which is serious (we recently got engaged). A question has been in my mind for quite some time; why has every single girl in my life never had a father present? Don't get me wrong; this is not a problem for me at all. This just makes me wonder why almost every girl I dated, or has been attracted to me, didn't have a father. I don't know how many girls I have had a "connection" with - I am guessing that it has been around 20 and only 1 of these girls has had a father present in her life. Is there some kind of psychological explanation on why I attract these type of women? Thank You for reading

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Default Dec 17, 2020 at 02:32 AM
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Hey Mike! I feel like I may be able to chime in here. But first I am just curious? Are you personally closer to your Mother... or Father? And is there even a Father figure in your own life? I am a 30ish year old Female. I wouldn't say I had Father issues but I def had bumps and ups and downs with my Dad (he was very hard on me). I love the guy but he could be so demeaning. I find that I am just naturally attracted to men who were mainly raised by their Mothers, believe it or not. I have found they are more in touch with their emotions. Not to say they aren't masculine, but I have found they are the more the "wear your heart on your sleeve" type of guys. It could just be that you have a personality trait that is pleasing to woman who have had to endure "not having a Dad present" in their lives. Maybe you are honest, comforting, good at "trust building" or just good at expressing your emotions altogether. I would assume that you might have a quality the woman didn't receive, but always intuitively wanted. I think you are somehow a source of comfort. Of course, those are just personal opinions.
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Default Dec 17, 2020 at 01:33 PM
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Dear Mike,

That is a mystery beyond my ability to solve. Perhaps there is something in you that engenders in those types a girls a fantasy of a father relationship they do not have and therefore fulfills some great and important need in them. To be truthful, this is just a guess as I really have no idea. So sorry I could not be helpful to you.

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Default Dec 17, 2020 at 03:40 PM
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Girls with, so called, "daddy issues" tend to be into much older or mature men. Maybe you're a serious guy, not a boy. Then it would make sense, wouldn't it?
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You had relationship with 20 women and you are only 30?
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You had relationship with 20 women and you are only 30?
Things are different nowadays, not wild and crazy like when we were young. All kindsa cooties and people getting married young.

Plus admit it, we were floozies!
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Things are different nowadays, not wild and crazy like when we were young. All kindsa cooties and people getting married young.

Plus admit it, we were floozies!

20 women by age 30 sounds pretty wild and crazy to me.

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Things are different nowadays, not wild and crazy like when we were young. All kindsa cooties and people getting married young.

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Your comment is disturbing. Being with more than 20 women by the age of 30 is pretty wild.
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Default Dec 18, 2020 at 10:40 PM
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It shouldn't matter how many women or men a person has been with. I think some men tend to be with more people sometimes. No judgment.

And the term "daddy issues" is derogatory.

To the OP, I have no answer to your question but I hope you find the answer you are looking for.
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Default Dec 19, 2020 at 01:56 PM
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aren't you somewhat also curious to know if there is a psychological explanation on why you are attracted to women without fathers?
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Things are different nowadays, not wild and crazy like when we were young. All kindsa cooties and people getting married young.

Plus admit it, we were floozies!
Well I always thought I had too many partners compare to many other women (no I wasn’t a floozy lol) but I sure didn’t have 20 men by age 30. That’s a bit wild I think
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Your comment is disturbing. Being with more than 20 women by the age of 30 is pretty wild.
I think she was kidding, Unaluna has a unique sense of humor. Yes it’s quite wild. And I am not a prude
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It shouldn't matter how many women or men a person has been with. I think some men tend to be with more people sometimes. No judgment.

And the term "daddy issues" is derogatory.

To the OP, I have no answer to your question but I hope you find the answer you are looking for.
I don’t think it matters in general. I don’t ever tell people the number because it’s no ones business but it might be relevant to the issue.

He is asking why he is attracted to certain type of women but then shared that he had been with so many, then question is if he is selective enough. Perhaps the issue could be solved if he becomes more selective. There is no need to get involved with everyone who comes along

Personally when I became more selective, I resolved the issue of being attracted to certain kind of men.

As about “daddy issue” I have no idea what that even means. Lots of people lost or never had a parent. It doesn’t mean there is an issue
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Default Jan 02, 2021 at 06:22 AM
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Hey @mike Maybe you DO attract those type of women. WHat do you mean havent got a father? Like a step dad or something? Anyways I think you shouldnt worry your engaged and with the right kind of person that lasts more than a year.

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Hi. I'm a 30 year old male and have been in quite a few relationships- some serious and some were casual. Currently, I am in a 2 year relationship which is serious (we recently got engaged). A question has been in my mind for quite some time; why has every single girl in my life never had a father present? Don't get me wrong; this is not a problem for me at all. This just makes me wonder why almost every girl I dated, or has been attracted to me, didn't have a father. I don't know how many girls I have had a "connection" with - I am guessing that it has been around 20 and only 1 of these girls has had a father present in her life. Is there some kind of psychological explanation on why I attract these type of women? Thank You for reading

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I think women instinctively are attracted to men who are good providers and breeders. I know that's archaic but whether we are aware of it or not, who we choose to love is the person who fills the empty spaces in their lives.

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Hi. I'm a 30 year old male and have been in quite a few relationships- some serious and some were casual. Currently, I am in a 2 year relationship which is serious (we recently got engaged). A question has been in my mind for quite some time; why has every single girl in my life never had a father present? Don't get me wrong; this is not a problem for me at all. This just makes me wonder why almost every girl I dated, or has been attracted to me, didn't have a father. I don't know how many girls I have had a "connection" with - I am guessing that it has been around 20 and only 1 of these girls has had a father present in her life. Is there some kind of psychological explanation on why I attract these type of women? Thank You for reading

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Default Feb 08, 2021 at 10:36 AM
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Well, if a guy starts dating girls at age 15 which is not so uncommon, it's not a big deal to have dated 20 different females over a 15 year period.
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Default Feb 08, 2021 at 11:51 AM
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i am not sure what may be the cause, but perhaps you come across as a strong person? In any case i don't think it is a big deal unless this bothers you of course. i wouldn't worry too much about it perhaps. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @mie12645, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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