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Confused Dec 18, 2020 at 12:16 AM
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I've been going back and forth for a few months now on whether I should ask my mom about talking to a therapist (I'm 17). I keep deciding that I don't need it and it would just be a waste of everyone's time. I'm also scared that as soon as I ask she will put me into the same category as my sister (long story) and start treating me like a 4 year old, or act like I'll explode any second. Even if she doesn't do that I know she'll see me differently.

Either that or the conversation will turn into her asking why I don't talk to her. And she'll talk in the voice she uses when she wants me to know I've deeply hurt her which I don't want to deal with. If she'd actually listen to me and empathize a bit, I would talk to her. But in my experience she just talks like she's reading from a script of "correct things for a good parent to say" before making it about herself. Gosh this paragraph makes me sound like a jerk. Maybe I am and that's my problem.

I guess I'm just looking for the easy way out. I'd rather let someone else figure out my problems and tell me what to do rather than face them myself. (And also face no repercussions in the process.) I looked for a while for online therapy sources so my parents wouldn't know - another easy way out (at least it would have been if money wasn't a thing).

I don't know if the kinds of things that bother me are actually issues, or if I'm just looking for an excuse to get out of... well, life. I know there are things I could be doing to improve my mental health but can't seem to stick to them. If nothing else, a therapist would at least hold me accountable. But I also don't want to waste their time. Most of the things I think could be "problems" probably just boil down to laziness.

So, I guess my question is, is it worth seeking therapy if what I'm going through is just regular teenager stuff?
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I've been going back and forth for a few months now on whether I should ask my mom about talking to a therapist (I'm 17). I keep deciding that I don't need it and it would just be a waste of everyone's time. I'm also scared that as soon as I ask she will put me into the same category as my sister (long story) and start treating me like a 4 year old, or act like I'll explode any second. Even if she doesn't do that I know she'll see me differently.

Either that or the conversation will turn into her asking why I don't talk to her. And she'll talk in the voice she uses when she wants me to know I've deeply hurt her which I don't want to deal with. If she'd actually listen to me and empathize a bit, I would talk to her. But in my experience she just talks like she's reading from a script of "correct things for a good parent to say" before making it about herself. Gosh this paragraph makes me sound like a jerk. Maybe I am and that's my problem.

I guess I'm just looking for the easy way out. I'd rather let someone else figure out my problems and tell me what to do rather than face them myself. (And also face no repercussions in the process.) I looked for a while for online therapy sources so my parents wouldn't know - another easy way out (at least it would have been if money wasn't a thing).

I don't know if the kinds of things that bother me are actually issues, or if I'm just looking for an excuse to get out of... well, life. I know there are things I could be doing to improve my mental health but can't seem to stick to them. If nothing else, a therapist would at least hold me accountable. But I also don't want to waste their time. Most of the things I think could be "problems" probably just boil down to laziness.

So, I guess my question is, is it worth seeking therapy if what I'm going through is just regular teenager stuff?
Welcome to PC and good for you that you want to keep working towards being the best you, you can be. I’m not a therapist or psychologist so not qualified to best answer your question. From my experience there are different kinds of therapists to seek or choose from, when a nephew whose a teenager needed help increasing his motivation to study and complete homework, he saw a health coach. If you are close to eighteen years old you may not need to ask parental permission to seek mental health therapy, but if you are on your parents’ health insurance then most likely you still will need to. You could start with asking your parent about seeing a health coach to help with methods and tips to improve your motivation. Good luck and keep being the best you, you can be.
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Hey @ziggystarlord144: I googled this for info.
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In many states, teens can be given mental health treatment without parental consent. When you call a clinic, hospital, or therapist, ask about your state's rules on parental consent for mental health services. And, when you see a counselor, find out about the rules when it comes to filling a prescription.

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Default Dec 21, 2020 at 05:58 AM
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Hi and welcome to PC👋👋

I think all your thoughts and concerns are legit. You have things you feel you want to discuss with someone who will be accepting, non judgmental, helpful, and a therapist is a good approach to take in that respect.Their whole mission is to help. I don't think it's a waste of anyone's time at all, and being a 17 year old is a time when some good guidance is a welcome thing.

I'd just like to say I think you're taking a wise approach towards your life. Keep it up. 🙂👍

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Default Dec 21, 2020 at 11:08 AM
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So Sorry to hear about your struggles! i can definitely relate. Are you currently going to school? Many schools often have a therapist or some sort of office where students can go to when they need support. Perhaps it would be a good idea to check that out? Perhaps you can also try to talk to someone else you trust about ALL of this such as a teacher or another relative? SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @ziggystarlord144, your Family, your FriEnds and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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