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Default Jun 11, 2021 at 02:06 PM
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I moved to a new home recently, all is good except there is one individual (in his late 20s) who shouts insults me from afar. I don’t know the guy or why the focus on me – but I know I look like an empath / an easy target. On a recent incident, he ramped it way up – what was different this time was he had an audience. I confronted him and we had heated words. He wasn’t letting up, so I eventually walked away – I felt embarrassed for both of us but he seemed in his element.

He’s trying very hard to come across as a thug – anything like a restraining order would be a win for him.

He’s obviously physically stronger than me and uses body language etc to give the impression of physical threat. It’s difficult to tell how real that threat is.

I’m well studied on the subject of narcissists. This guy ticks ticks all the boxes to a degree I haven't seen in quite some time. Hence I’m posting the question here.

Is there really anything I can do except wait it out and hope it doesn't descend into violence?
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Default Jun 12, 2021 at 05:45 AM
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Ignore him, do not engage in any conversation.
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Default Jun 12, 2021 at 07:46 AM
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So Sorry you have to put up with this! Please Do not give up! i agree with the wise and wonderful Marie123. Please do stay way from him and if things do get violent don't hesitate to call the police. Hopefully things will turn out to be pretty Ok. Please do keep us updated if you can and want to. Stay Safe. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @pwok, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Default Jun 13, 2021 at 01:13 AM
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Thanks for the kind words MickeyCheeky. I agree with Marie123 - one should ignore a person like that.
It seems as a society, we still haven't figured out how to properly deal with malignant narcissist behaviour
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Default Jul 06, 2021 at 05:51 PM
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I agree, ignore him

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Default Jul 13, 2021 at 12:24 PM
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So what do the other neighbors who have been there longer have to say about him?

If you meet any of your new neighbors I (being the nosey neighbor I am even in my farm community) would ask them, "hey, what's up with that guy" or "have you had any experience with him?" You might be surprised at what you learn & maybe some ideas on how best to handle him.

Sometimes ignoring can cause escalation also.

If they don't give any input & until or if you get any, I would definitely do the ignore & pretend you don't even hear him & walk back into your house

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Default Jul 15, 2021 at 08:05 AM
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Good question @eskielover

I do have one very friendly neighbour - I told him about it, he said the same happened him, then he had to go in a hurry - he has avoided me since. I'm not sure what to say about that...

"Sometimes ignoring can cause escalation also" - sounds like its a loose-loose situation if that is the case
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This does sound like a loser situation, I’m so sorry. I also can’t fathom out your friendly neighbour’s reaction to you telling him. Maybe he thinks the narcopath neighbour might leave him alone now? But it’s horrible for you, either way.
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Default Jul 28, 2021 at 10:10 AM
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Yeah exactly @RoxanneToto. Given the opportunity to stick together to end a problem in the community, or, look after yourself and pass the problem onto someone else, I think a lot of folk will take the latter option.
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Default Jul 28, 2021 at 10:11 AM
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Yeah exactly @RoxanneToto. Given the opportunity to stick together to end a problem in the community, or, look after yourself and pass the problem onto someone else, I think a lot of folk will take the latter option.
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