Why should I trust doctors and counselors?

All started with a bad doc failing to see my grandmother after breaking her hip, and now we are suing him after we weren’t satisfied with the Board’s response. Thanks to him I’ve put off seeing doctors or counselors to treat previously undiagnosed anxiety and depression until now. Then when I started seeing a psych through my MHMR all it seemed like he wanted to do with me was give me more drugs and move to the next client. All on top of already haven seen two counselors before, one frequently cancelled and was judgmental and another seemed like she mainly wanted to visit. This one I want to see was so nice when she took me into MHMR but rarely answers the phone and hasn’t returned my call about my insurance yet. Oh and by the way? It’s so painfully slow to find a urologist who can give me a specific procedure and the waiting is starting holding me hostage from resuming work after 2 years and who might improve my current symptoms in the first place.

I want to get treated since I’ve had these issues for 5 years now, a good chunk of my adult life but I guess no one ever cares about treating me and never will. Maybe nobody cares about me in general either. And the most important lesson I’ve learned with most people in life is that doctors are corrupt and only want to take money from me and give me meds.

I read doctor reviews on Healthgrades. Ask questions and research things. When they do a good job, I take a bag of individually wrapped candies to the office. (Im vaccinated) I love the gerontologist office I found here. They respect my opinion when I request they do or do not do something. I get a lot more cooperation since I took a copy of the medical power of attorney to the office. Ours is not a competency situation, the notarized paper just shows that Im authorized to speak for my ex. I totally agree with your watchful attitude, totally. Ive encountered many types of nonsensical medical behavior.
With regard to psych professionals, Im limited by our insurance. I take a multipage psych history when I see a new doctor. Really limits the guesswork. For the most part, I make medication decisions for myself. Ive had bp2 for so many years. I find that making a timeline to recognize patterns in my behavior is very enlightening.

So Sorry that you've had bad experiences with doctors! Please Do not give up! Love. i agree with the wise and wonderful luvyrself about checking out information about the doctors you're seeing if you aren't already. Though that doesn't mean you'll never have bad experiences again with them it may diminish the chances you'll have to experience something again i Hope so at least. i Hope things will improve really soon for everyone. Stay Safe. Hugs. Stay Strong. i think you can handle this. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @DazedandConfused254, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

My mom is always with me at doctors appointments and they are all really nice but I wonder how nice they’d be if my mom wasn’t there. She’s only with me in hospitals, immediate cares, and ERs. I go to my primary, my Pdoc, and my therapist on my own. I’ve had mixed reviews with pdocs. Most have been ok except for one and he didn’t get bad until a couple years after I started seeing him. My current one I’ve been seeing for almost 3 years and he’s professional but pretty irresponsible when it comes to meds especially benzos. I can’t handle therapists who are older then 40. But especially ones who are 50 or older. We just don’t get along. 3 of the 5 older ones I’ve seen have been pretty unprofessional and judge mental. The young ones I’ve been ok with. I did stay with a therapist in her 50’s for almost 3 years. I don’t know what was different about her. If my Pdoc hadn’t gone crazy I probably would have stayed with her longer.

If I felt like it I could probably sue my doctor for being irresponsible for getting me hooked on Valium after I just told him I was out of control with my Xanax. The dumb **** decideds to put me on Valium instead. I mean, doctors get sued all the time for over prescribing opiates. How are benzos any different?

I had worse luck with MD's, Pdocs & T's when I lived in Los Angeles. I moved to a small town in Ky & I have found the best T ever & the best MD's. Never went to another Pdoc here because I couldn't take meds anyway without bad side effects. Go figure. I have actually been healthier here & have not needed to see any MD's lol....except when a beetle flew in my ear one night at the barn & I needed to go to an ENT to have it removed. The hazards of country living.

I also have good friends here. One a retired PA I can ask everything I have questions about & a retired pharmacist. I have every medical aspect covered to get educated information from. Something I never had in Los Angeles & it makes a huge difference

Thank you all so much for making all this effort to uplift me right now! Though I've been busy these last few weeks I have read all of these responses a number of times and value all of these different perspectives besides my own. And I actually believe they may have even guided me recently with some recent visits to the very specialists I have been fearing. After an anxiety attack I decided to finally take the plunge to get counseling and have already found the right one. He already noted that my confidence is down and he would like to help me get it back, which is a key factor in my current mental health state. And then when I saw my PCP for the first time in a few months, he really cared about me and encouraged me to put myself back out in the world instead of being paralyzed. Plus all the techs and receptionists there treated me like family. How perfect is that? And again I think all of you guys had put me in a better mindset. Thanks again @luvyrself, @MickeyCheeky, @Mountaindewedand @eskielover!

254, you have no idea what a lift your thanks is to me. Helps me keep going, grabbing onto the positive things, trying to slough off bad patterns. Hugs!