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Default Aug 15, 2021 at 02:43 PM
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I feel like I'm a very perceptive kind of person, I guess. When I talk to people, either in person or on the phone, I can sense if something is wrong with them. Usually when I feel that way I would ask the person something like, "how are you doing or are you alright?". I don't do that with everyone I come across. I only do that with people close to me. Though I hate to say that there are many who are not close to me in my life right now.

A good example is when I talk to my sister on the phone . Every time I talk to her I feel like something's wrong. I've asked her if she's alright. She always says that everything's fine. To me she sounds very tired and listless. She's in her mid-70s and, to me, she has a tone of voice like a little girl. She didn't used to. A friend of mine is 10 years older than her and he's not in great shape. When I talk to him on the phone he sounds alright. Also I have a brother who is 2 years younger than her with leukemia and is being treated with Chemo. When I talk to him on the phone, he sounds much better and more alive than my sister does.

So I don't know. I'm wondering if my sister is withholding something from me. My family has been notorious for lying and keeping secrets. She thinks I'm out of mind for feeling the way I do. Well, maybe I am. But lots of times I have been correct when I sensed that something was wrong with someone.
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Default Aug 15, 2021 at 06:51 PM
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Just some insight based on my own experience....

Sometimes when I feel overloaded with things going on in my life, I might sound the way you describe your sister as sounding. I personally am fine but there is a level of stress that is just exhausting to get through. I just don't have the energy I normally have & I am sure it comes through in how I sound.

But that said, people can also hide how they really are not wanting to share details & I am sure I could be that way too.

Not always easy to distinguish but I think your perception that something is going on is probably pretty accurate.

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Default Sep 01, 2021 at 07:56 PM
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Hi,
I was looking through posts and yours resonated with me, because I too have an ability to feel others energy. Having that sixth sense of being able to feel peoples energy can be positive or it can be draining and negative. I can see how you may want to help people, especially your sister, if you notice that something is not quite right.
I had a life coach once who was helping me on some areas of personal growth, and one of them had to do with my husband. She said, " What your husband thinks and feels is none of your business." I was taken aback by that and had to think about if for a while , and then tried to practice it. At first I had difficulty, because you would think that partners should be able to share everything, especially when you see them struggling. And then I realized that the more I tried to be involved with his thoughts and feelings, the more it irritated and drove him further away.
It took months for me to be able to detach from his thoughts and feelings and just stay present, available and keep doing "me". It took a long time to shift but once I did I felt so much better about myself and about our relationship. I also noticed that he was calmer and not as agitated around me and we slowly grew closer together. It was a find dance but it worked.

I dont know if this is helpful or not, but your internal conflict resonated with me.

Thanks for sharing.
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Default Sep 02, 2021 at 08:42 PM
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So Sorry about it also! Please Do not give up! Hugs. i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters that you may be on to something but that she should tell you if she wants to obviously. You can't control her decisions so if you feel like she's hiding something i think the best thing is to ask her and if she refuses perhaps it's best to simply respect her decision. i imagine it hurts but sometimes you need space for yourself. i Hope you're not taking it personally. M. Be Safe. Love. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @will19, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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