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Old 11-24-2021, 03:22 PM   #21
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I understand how you feel. I feel like this all the time. I find myself being chewed out for venting.
Yeah same here or at least made to feel guilty for venting even though other people around me are allowed to do it.
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Old 11-24-2021, 03:23 PM   #22
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I see complaining about stuff as a sort of comedic-philosophical lifestyle. As dr phil says, you cant change what you dont acknowledge, and "laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone." In the 1980's we used to call it the japanese practice of continuous improvement.
Yeah true, basically if you become negative then you will be alone.
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Old 11-24-2021, 03:25 PM   #23
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I have been getting pharmacy calls regarding prescriptions for a lady that used to live at the barn apartment where I kept my horse. Haven't seen her since July when they got kicked out of there. Called the pharmacy to tell them to remove my phone number because their message would never get to her. They assured me it was being removed. Next day I got the same call from the pharmacy. You bettcha I called & complained & no more calls. I totally believe in the squeaky wheel being the one that gets service IF IT IS DONE NICELY & POLITELY. I never complain to just complain. I complain with the goal & the means to change what is wrong. I will never be silent
Yeah that makes sense and that's what I try to do too, no one likes a constant Debbie downer and I know quite a few people like that which is energy draining.
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Yeah same here or at least made to feel guilty for venting even though other people around me are allowed to do it.
Thing about guilt is that it is a personal feeling we allow ourselves to take on. I never let anyone make me feel guilty. If I am personally convicted that I did something wrong then I will apologize. Otherwise I refuse to take on any guilt that people try to shove on me. My mom was always good at trying to do that because it would get her what she wanted & she hated that I would never play that game even as a child. Never feel guilty unless you, yourself are truly convicted in your heart that you did something wrong
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Thing about guilt is that it is a personal feeling we allow ourselves to take on. I never let anyone make me feel guilty. If I am personally convicted that I did something wrong then I will apologize. Otherwise I refuse to take on any guilt that people try to shove on me. My mom was always good at trying to do that because it would get her what she wanted & she hated that I would never play that game even as a child. Never feel guilty unless you, yourself are truly convicted in your heart that you did something wrong
Yeah that makes absolute sense and I need to get better at standing up for myself. I think people know it is easy to make me feel guilty which really isn't a good thing.
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