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Old 12-06-2021, 12:34 AM   #1
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Red face Is there something in the DSMV about feeling that your demographic is inferior?

I want to speak to a psychologist about feeling that my race or gender is inferior, and dealing with those feelings, and it would help me a lot if I could give her the name for these feelings so that she would understand right away without my having to explain everything. Also I would feel better if it was in the DSMV because then I wouldn't feel as alone and weird in my feelings.

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That is tough I'm sorry you're having those feelings. From my experience therapists don't really like it when you say you feel you have X diagnosis you can choose to do whatever you prefer of course but if it were me I'd go in and list my symptoms. You could look up PTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder and see if either of those symptoms are what you're dealing with. And for what it's worth I think you're a human deserving of respect and kindness, even towards yourself I hope you are able to feel a sense of peace. Loving ourselves isn't always easy so you're not alone.
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Yes it is tough at times. I looked through my internet history a bit and I found that I tend to obsess over this about once a month or so.

It's mainly about feeling inferior to women. And also I get upset at the media narrative that men have 'privilege' when if you look at the stats we are behind in so many areas. Many of these areas aren't even being addressed.
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Also I should mention that I have a fetish around being submissive to women. So it's complicated. Maybe I have to give up this fetish.
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Yes it is tough at times. I looked through my internet history a bit and I found that I tend to obsess over this about once a month or so.

It's mainly about feeling inferior to women. And also I get upset at the media narrative that men have 'privilege' when if you look at the stats we are behind in so many areas. Many of these areas aren't even being addressed.
Have you always felt this way? Do you feel it started it has gotten worse since the recent movement of male privilege? I could see how you would feel upset in reading this type of news. I don't think it's easy for any demographic to be on blast. You should try to limit media usage and block certain news stations or groups that often post this information.

And I think it would be very helpful to talk about these feelings with a therapist but I don't think you will need to have a full explanation simply stating "I feel that my race or gender is inferior" they'll know the right questions to ask you from there.

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I just read the fetish comment, I think that would be beneficial to include in your therapy conversation too just in case that fetish is adding to your negative emotions.
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Have you always felt this way? Do you feel it started it has gotten worse since the recent movement of male privilege? I could see how you would feel upset in reading this type of news. I don't think it's easy for any demographic to be on blast. You should try to limit media usage and block certain news stations or groups that often post this information.

And I think it would be very helpful to talk about these feelings with a therapist but I don't think you will need to have a full explanation simply stating "I feel that my race or gender is inferior" they'll know the right questions to ask you from there.

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I just read the fetish comment, I think that would be beneficial to include in your therapy conversation too just in case that fetish is adding to your negative emotions.
I think I have always had feelings of my gender being being left out because it seemed to me that most of the mainstream media narrative since I was a child was about being positive towards women and sometimes demeaning men. Also my father had told me that women would be too clever for me and would take all my money, and stuff like that. But he would say that of people in general as well, not just women. For example he would say the bank would take my house.

I also felt the social dynamic of men having to impress women, or to propose, or to pay for meals, etc, seemed unfair to me, and left men open to risk and ridicule. This probably relates to my dad's comments about women taking advantage of my naivetie.

So yes I always had certain feelings along these lines.

Yes I block all the news really, even on social media.
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ANYTIME you put yourself in a submissive position you are going to feel inferior. It just comes with that kind of thinking. Might be a good idea to discuss this in therapy. Life is hard enough to deal with but when our own mind puts more in the mix that isn't necessary it just makes it even harder. The intensive DBT therapy I had for several years helped me be mindful of my thoughts & take control of them. Definitely a valuable skill to have
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