[Mountaindewed]

I am about an average weight for my height. I have some restricting eating disorder traits but in general I eat a normal amount of food. I eat a mix of healthy and unhealthy stuff. My therapist is a couple inches taller then me and about 100 pounds heavier. She is always telling me what to eat and that I should be drinking like smoothies and eating more vegetables and fruit and less soda. and I don't know. I guess I just find taking her advice a bit ironic. Is it wrong for me to feel and think like this?

I mean isnt it kind of like taking relationship advice from someone whos gone through multiple breakups or someone trying to give you medical advice who isn't a doctor?

[unaluna]

I find it hard to take advice from skinny people. I have a relative who told us that she legit has a metabolic issue and stays very thin no matter what she eats. She has a heavy daughter who definitely did not inherit this metabolism. Thin people only know about their own body, imo! Fat people can tell you about what they managed to stick to for a short while.

There is a national study where you have to have kept a large amount of weight off for a long period of time. Advice from there is probably reliable. I think they say regular exercise and tracking.

[divine1966]

I actually think the best relationship advice is from people who went through break ups. They know what to look for and what to pay attention to. If you never had a bad relationship how would you know to recognize signs of it early on? Life experience makes your advice more valuable than people’s who have no experience.

Same with skinny people. When I was skinny I’d have no advice for you because it was no matter what I ate. I was just skinny. I am not anymore and I know what works and what doesn’t. I could give a good advice

Yes what Unaluna said: tracking what you eat is important. I once dated endocrinologist. He said (not in regards to me just general talk) that in order to maintain weight what goes in your body and comes out of your body has to be at least the same. If you eat 2000 calories but only metabolize a 1500, you’ll gain weight. In addition exercise is good but if you keep eating a lot you still won’t lose weight.

Both my gyn and GP are very experienced. I trust their expertise. My gyn said that we simply can’t eat the same amount as we ate when we were young or before we started to get weight gain tendencies, so just make smaller portions. Don’t starve. Just cut it a bit by bit.

My GP says to limit carbs. No need to limit portions as much as eliminate excessive carbs. Make a big plate if you are hungry but it doesn’t need to be a plate of pasta with garlic bread. It could be a big plate of other stuff. Less carbs.

Also weight watchers recommend dense foods that make you full. Like foods with ton of water in them. Grapes or watermelon. It will make you full but you won’t get you fat lol. Of course you can’t live on those foods but they could replace lunch or snack

[Mountaindewed]

I don't give diet advice to anyone. I find bringing up someones weight or eating habits rude. Yet people think its ok to bring mine up. I've literally been asked before by my coworkers how much I weigh. I would never ask someone that.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I don't give diet advice to anyone. I find bringing up someones weight or eating habits rude. Yet people think its ok to bring mine up. I've literally been asked before by my coworkers how much I weigh. I would never ask someone that.

Of course. Unsolicited advice or comments on peoples weight are totally uncalled for.

I guess I misunderstood. I thought you were talking about situations when you bring up the topic or ask for advice and don’t like if overweight person advised you.

If the issue is unsolicited comments or advise then what does it matter if commenter is skinny or fat? They are just plain rude

[BeyondtheRainbow]

It is possible to know plenty about nutrition and still be overweight. I promise you if you took my meds you would gain weight. Clozaril has a huge weight gain profile and even on metformin I've gained weight. I eat healthy and I know plenty about staying healthy but the meds have me out of control. I was 120 lbs before meds.


Maybe don't judge a book by its' cover?

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I am about an average weight for my height. I have some restricting eating disorder traits but in general I eat a normal amount of food. I eat a mix of healthy and unhealthy stuff. My therapist is a couple inches taller then me and about 100 pounds heavier. She is always telling me what to eat and that I should be drinking like smoothies and eating more vegetables and fruit and less soda. and I don't know. I guess I just find taking her advice a bit ironic. Is it wrong for me to feel and think like this?

I mean isnt it kind of like taking relationship advice from someone whos gone through multiple breakups or someone trying to give you medical advice who isn't a doctor?

The size of a person has nothing to do with their health (well not always). You can be anorexic and fat, just fyi. You can also eat healthy and be heavier than someone else. You can be skinny and unhealthy. Since you're asking, I wouldn't say it's "wrong" to think what you are thinking and feeling, but I would say it is uninformed and judgmental.

At the same time, if you don't want advice about eating habits from your therapist (or anyone) and it makes you annoyed, uncomfortable, I'd just say (to whoever it was) that I don't want advice on my eating habits and leave it at that.

[Mountaindewed]

I'm sorry for offending people. This is just how I feel about this topic. Sorry it wasn't my intention to get anyone upset. I was just asking a question. I didn't mean to come off as judgemental.

[*Beth*]

I believe that in general, someone who has been through (or is in) a certain situation (whatever that may be...weight, relationship issues, etc.) could be the most well-informed.

[Mountaindewed]

I asked for diet and health advice from my super skinny doctor. I asked him if eating healthy and excercising will lower my blood level and decrease my chances of getting a heart attack or a stroke. He told me no. I mean doesn't healthy eating and excercising always result in lowering your chances of getting a heart attack and stroke? Kind of an odd response from a doctor of any size.

[littleblackdog]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I mean doesn't healthy eating and excercising always result in lowering your chances of getting a heart attack and stroke? Kind of an odd response from a doctor of any size.

Not always. In your case, from what you have said, the risk comes because you have polycythemia vera which means you produce too many red blood cells which makes your blood thicker and more likely to clot causing a heart attack or stroke, so diet and exercise won’t reduce that risk. The usual risk for heart attacks comes from having high cholesterol which causes fatty deposits on your arteries which can break away and cause heart attacks etc.

[divine1966]

Your doctor being skinny has nothing to do with medical advice. He gives advice based on medical knowledge, not him being skinny. It’s not as simple as exercise and diet. It depends what other issues you have. In some cases exercise isn’t even recommended

[unaluna]

I googled.

"Madsen offered several recommendations for providers to reduce the risk for erythrocytosis in transgender men receiving testosterone therapy. Providers should consider switching to transdermal administration if hematocrit levels are high."

[Werewoman]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I am about an average weight for my height. I have some restricting eating disorder traits but in general I eat a normal amount of food. I eat a mix of healthy and unhealthy stuff. My therapist is a couple inches taller then me and about 100 pounds heavier. She is always telling me what to eat and that I should be drinking like smoothies and eating more vegetables and fruit and less soda. and I don't know. I guess I just find taking her advice a bit ironic. Is it wrong for me to feel and think like this?

I mean isnt it kind of like taking relationship advice from someone whos gone through multiple breakups or someone trying to give you medical advice who isn't a doctor?

Not at all. She may have a thyroid condition or some other medical issue that causes her weight problem.
Granted, there are people out there that for whatever reason, being an eating disorder or someone who just loves to eat, that wilfully overeat, but let's not assume everyone who is overweight makes that choice.
Yesterday I was grabbing burgers to go and I noticed a very overweight couple finish their dinner, then split another large burger between them. Who really knows.

[MuseumGhost]

There are many conditions that would cause an otherwise healthy person to gain weight, and not be able to shift it. Sometimes it's due to medications they're taking, sometimes it's age-related and other times it may be hormonal or adrenal problems. It does not mean that person is ignorant or uninformed about healthy nutritional guidelines.

A person's appearance should not be a factor when you are receiving medical advice. That's a pretty limited/ limiting way to perceive people, and the help they can give you, basing it all their appearance alone.