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Default Jun 26, 2022 at 09:51 PM
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I know EVERYTHING about me, the worst parts, things that no one would know if I didn't tell them, things that were only thoughts for a few seconds. How do I look at all my worst features and still find ways to love me?

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Default Jun 27, 2022 at 04:35 AM
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It is a question that I think is hard to answer without sounding like the typical predictable responses. You should want for others what you want for yourself, however when you can't deliver it is difficult because you don't know what you don't know. In the world we live, being realistic is important. If being mistreated, you should be able to identify it without thinking you are entitled to a correction. Loving yourself isn't about obtaining justice for oneself...but what else would we talk about? I read things and I wonder...

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You are the only you that there is....unique and loveable. Everyone has things they feel that are negative about themselves.Try to honor the person that you are.
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You asked how you look at your worst features and still love yourself. And you mentioned thoughts that only lasted a few seconds. You know... thoughts are just thoughts. They are like dark clouds that pass briefly before the sun. They have no real substance except for that which we grant them. (The Buddhist nun Pema Chodron has written extensively on this sort of thing.)

Everyone has dark thoughts from time-to-time, probably more of them than most of us would care to admit. I know I certainly do. But if all a person has is dark thoughts weighing them down, then (at least from my perspective) they're doing pretty darn well! It's those of us who have acted on those dark thoughts that (IMHO) have the really heavy crosses to bear, so to speak.

How to you still love yourself? Well... therapy is one obvious answer I suppose. A consistent meditation practice, ideally guided by a skilled meditation master, can help too. But perhaps the most practical means is via good works. If you can find ways of being of help to others in need, for one thing, you'll be too busy to worry about momentary dark thoughts; but also you'll know that, despite your momentary dark thoughts (which everyone has anyway), you're being of genuine benefit to others. That, it seems to me, is the royal road to self-respect and self-love.

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I know EVERYTHING about me, the worst parts, things that no one would know if I didn't tell them, things that were only thoughts for a few seconds. How do I look at all my worst features and still find ways to love me?
I wished that I had an answer for you. I certainly understand how your feeling. I feel the same way.

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Forgiveness. I've done horrific things to people I love most in the world in a fit of mania I can't control.

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Hello Keep Secrets with You, Love Yourself and Stop Hating.
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Always love yourself don't hate.
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