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I went to the bar with a friends tonight. My one friend (who I'm not extremely close with mind you) always seems to feel uneasy (or at least says she does) when she's home. She says her mom's a drunk and her stepdad's... let's just say not the greatest person.
Along with that she's somewhat in a relationship with a guy she left, freaked out on her and now it's basically an on and off thing. I'm in no place to talk to her about the relation ship with her ex, but I suggested that she might think about cutting it off seeing as it would probably linger on for quite a while with no real progress. I texted her the therapy podcast I've recently started listening to and linked her this website through text as well. No idea whether she's going to use any of it or not, but I feel like she could benefit from these things. Do you think I went to far? Everything I knew about her situations, she's told me and/or a group of my friends (myself included). I just wanted to help, but I didn't know what else to do and I figured if she could have some sort of other support system other than just us (though we'd never turn her away), it may help her with what she's going through. I've been questing this ever since I got home. |
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I don't know your friend, of course, but it sounds to me like you were just trying to be helpful, and it's up to her whether she wants to check out the podcast or our website. But I suggest you not bring them up again unless she asks about them. Otherwise, she might see you as too pushy.
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#3
I came to the same conclusion. I want to help her, but whether she wants to use what I gave or not, she's going to do what she want's to do. I hope she does though. I told her that I'd understand if she doesn't want me knowing who she is on the site, because I know that would make me feel uneasy unless I told that person I said it was okay.
I don't think I went too far, rather just enough. I just wanted to get anyone's opinion on if they think it was the right thing to do. I'm not going to judge anyone, I just want honesty. |
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Nicholas, you offered ideas and left it up to her what she does with info. I agree you did just enough.
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@NicholasFlammel, I agree with @lizardlady.........It never hurts to offer someone advice, and you helped by doing that.......It's up to her what to do now......I hope she is okay.
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As do I. She's pretty much kept away from us since that day. She says that she's sick every time the rest o us want to get together, but she's fine the day before and after. I'm worried, but I can't say anything and the rest of my friends wave it off.
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I’d not worry. She’s not interested in meeting up and comes up with excuses.
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__________________ "Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about....Please, be kind, always"..........Robin Williams Diagnoses: Major Depressive Disorder (treatment-resistant) Anxiety/Panic Disorder (treatment- resistant} OCD (treatment-resistant) Agoraphobia (treatment-resistant) Chronic Insomnia (able to sleep with current medication) |
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If you believe that your sil's children may be in danger, it is best for the sil's spouse (or the kids' father) to take action. If the sil is resistent, may her mother and/or father may suggest to her that they "spend time with the grandkids" while the spouse has time to figure out the matter. If none of these people are aware of the danger (or are in denial) that obviously removes options.
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