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Default Mar 30, 2023 at 07:29 PM
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I've been in this apartment for 8 years.

I have 6 months to find a new one.

Do I just take the first one that fits my criteria?


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Default Mar 30, 2023 at 08:06 PM
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Moving is hard. If you have 6 months you have a bit of time.

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Default Mar 31, 2023 at 07:48 AM
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I would spend the 1st 2 months just looking at everything available in my price range. If I find something I really like, take it. If not then spend the last 4 months seriously looking because the last month would probably be needed for giving notice.

I came to Ky for 2 weeks to find a small farm 16 years ago. I knew if I didn't buy a farm when I was here I would end up going back to my bad marriage & losing all the money I had to my financially irresponsible husband I was buying a place to escape to. There were 4 farms for sale in my price range on the market. I ended up picking from location even though the farm set up was non-existent & needed work. Set priorities I required & did a process of elimination. Never regretted my choice because I logically thought through it & knew why I chose the little farm I chose. Apartments are the same way.....the "perfect" place never exists but the best choice one does. Don't pass up one you like waiting to find the "perfect" one

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Look at several as soon as you can, then pick the one you like best
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Default Mar 31, 2023 at 07:33 PM
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Have a list of must halves and deal breakers and be flexible with the rest
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Default Apr 01, 2023 at 02:48 PM
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Great advice!

Except I am on public assistance so that limits my options tremendously. I guess I should have mentioned that too.


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Great advice!

Except I am on public assistance so that limits my options tremendously. I guess I should have mentioned that too.


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Default Apr 03, 2023 at 12:45 PM
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I guess a lot depends on the real estate market where you live too. Where I live the rental market is extremely tight. If I knew I needed to find a place to rent, I'd start looking as soon as possible, especially if my price range was limited. Really, you have to take what you can get. In markets with more availability, taking some time to shop around is more of an option.
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Default Apr 03, 2023 at 12:47 PM
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It stinks because I'm in the country and the only things available are in the city.

Quite an adjustment

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Default Apr 03, 2023 at 01:00 PM
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I understand. That would be a huge adjustment. I did the opposite four years ago. My husband and I moved from our country's capital city to a more rural area. It took some adjusting at first. However, now, there is no way I would move back to the capital. I am used to my life here now, and the city has sadly gone downhill significantly.
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It stinks because I'm in the country and the only things available are in the city.

Quite an adjustment

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I understand. That would be a huge adjustment. I did the opposite four years ago. My husband and I moved from our country's capital city to a more rural area. It took some adjusting at first. However, now, there is no way I would move back to the capital. I am used to my life here now, and the city has sadly gone downhill significantly.
That's what I'm afraid of. Higher crime rate

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I've been in this apartment for 8 years.

I have 6 months to find a new one.

Do I just take the first one that fits my criteria?


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Default Apr 04, 2023 at 03:09 PM
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I'm in the same boat, I love my current place but got a voucher and to use it I have to move. I applied at a place and am freaking out. Having buyers remorse, but finding I don't like anything better except for space but they don't have amenities. it's a tough call. Try to get something you like it'll motivate you to move. mine was dishwasher. washer dryer, balcony. now for that I may be getting rid of some furniture.

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I'm in the same boat, I love my current place but got a voucher and to use it I have to move. I applied at a place and am freaking out. Having buyers remorse, but finding I don't like anything better except for space but they don't have amenities. it's a tough call. Try to get something you like it'll motivate you to move. mine was dishwasher. washer dryer, balcony. now for that I may be getting rid of some furniture.
Great idea. I never thought about that.

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I'm in the same boat, I love my current place but got a voucher and to use it I have to move. I applied at a place and am freaking out. Having buyers remorse, but finding I don't like anything better except for space but they don't have amenities. it's a tough call. Try to get something you like it'll motivate you to move. mine was dishwasher. washer dryer, balcony. now for that I may be getting rid of some furniture.
Thanks for understanding. It is a challenge especially after being here 8 years

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5 years at my place waited 2 years to get in. I use the storage closet as my office the new apt has more sq footage but less wall space real open concept. No storage closet to use as an office. so I'm having planning denial issues.

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I been helping my nieces relocate

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5 years at my place waited 2 years to get in. I use the storage closet as my office the new apt has more sq footage but less wall space real open concept. No storage closet to use as an office. so I'm having planning denial issues.
When my brother had all kids still living at home, he had his office set up in the living room in one of the corners. It was working fine. He now was able to put in one of the bedrooms. Living room could be just fine. Could you do that?
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