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Apr 07, 2023 at 07:45 PM
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On how to respond to a rage filled daughter who is triggered by literally everything you say and blames you for making her angry but you can see how badly she is hurting inside?
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Apr 07, 2023 at 08:27 PM
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You might want to check out articles online for dealing with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (not saying this is what she has, but it might help you in talking to her.)
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Apr 08, 2023 at 06:04 AM
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Have you considered therapy? You can respond calmly and quietly.
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Apr 08, 2023 at 02:00 PM
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Literally ANYTHING I say AT ALL is met with aggression, name calling and viciousness.
She won't talk to me about a single thing but expects me to understand. I opened the door and she's pissed I didn't tell her because she had her key in the lock. That's just one example Sent from my LM-G710VM using Tapatalk |
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Apr 10, 2023 at 01:51 PM
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Greetings DeeeSchmeee68,
I have a ton of experience with this as I had a seven-to-eight-year struggle with my son. For multiple years my wife, daughter and I endured verbal abuse, threats, stealing, embarrassment, etc. etc. etc. etc. There is no magic pill for this as every situation is different with untold variable at play. We sent my son to several programs for weeks / months at a time and I would argue he would only return more brazen and disrespectful. When he turned 18, we kicked him out. One of the hardest decisions I ever made but I wanted to live in a home, not a battlefield. I wish you nothing but the best and peace and comfort. |
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Apr 12, 2023 at 05:42 PM
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Thank you for that.
Being a single woman I don't have the emotional support I need. She's 21. Won't let me help her. How is your relationship with your son now? Sent from my LM-G710VM using Tapatalk |
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Apr 13, 2023 at 03:27 PM
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I don't have any daughters, I say it isn't easy. I wish I could help you on this. I was a brat when I was a teenager, could be a phase that she's going through or someone or something that she is exposed to that's making her lash out. looks like some detective work is needed, mum
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Apr 14, 2023 at 02:21 PM
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You set firm boundaries with consequences (i.e. firm but calm).
Hurting inside is no excuse for mistreating or abusing other people. Your daughter should not be allowed to get away with treating you - or anyone else - so appallingly. |
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Apr 14, 2023 at 09:09 PM
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Apr 15, 2023 at 08:30 AM
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I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship so I can't answer that for you.
Like I wrote in my post earlier: you are firm but fair/calm. Examples: She addresses you with respect or you do not engage with her. You don't cater to her when she treats you like crap. You reinforce the expectations you have while she is living under your roof You stop making excuses for her (e.g. she is suffering inside) which only serves to enable her to continue her appaling behaviour Etc. |
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Apr 23, 2023 at 07:17 AM
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I had to ask her to leave.
I'm sad to say I feel better without my daughter here. Sent from my LM-G710VM using Tapatalk |
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