I want to die happy. is that a weird goal on it's own?

what I mean by that is, I don't have any goals. I don't have any idea how I am going to reach happiness.

I just know that I want to die happy. I don't want to look back on my life and think oh I wish I did this, this, and this.

I want to do it.

I have that wish too. As I get older and older, I prioritize my goals and wishes and hopefully I will not die with regrets.

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Originally Posted by emily1890 what I mean by that is, I don't have any goals. I don't have any idea how I am going to reach happiness. I just know that I want to die happy. I don't want to look back on my life and think oh I wish I did this, this, and this. I want to do it.

At 70, I realize the goals I had, I achieved....HOWEVER I had to fight parents & then husband to achieve them. I was definitely happy I achieved then but unhappy with the fighting it required to get there.

I did everything that my life allowed to be done. I will not regret anything that was not possible in my life. Being realistic is one of the keys to happiness.

I walked away from a 33 year marriage & everything I had. Only thing I had was the inheritance my mom left me & with that I bought a small farm & a truck 2100 miles away from everything I ever knew & started life all over at 54. I find that happiness is more of a state of mind & being satisfied with what one has rather than unhappy because of what one doesn't have. I have never been happier than I am now & I am living alone with my animals who are my family. I could make myself miserable thinking about all the "things" I walked away from but my happiness does not depend on things. It depends on the peace & contentment even if it is basically with nothing but my farm, my animals & the friends I have made over the last 16 years of living here. I don't even regret my bad marriage because without it, I would not be where I am today. If I hadn't gone through what I did, I would not have had the experiences that can help others now. Happiness is all about the way we choose to see the life we have......& yes, I hated my life in my bad marriage but escaping from that & years of good therapy to process it all has brought me peace & happiness where I am without any regrets

Hi emily1890.

Wanting to die as a happy person doesn't at all strike me as weird. In fact in that respect I think it's actually quite common. I'm guessing you aren't happy right now though, am I correct? Well then, why not make your desire of dying happy be the reason to live? You could use the time allotted you in this difficult human realm, to achieving the inner happiness you want emily1890. That could be your goal, your dream. Look for the little things in life which might bring you a smile: a beautiful sunset, a magnificent sunrise, the birds chirping in trees, a nice cup of tea with marmalade on toast in the morning. Seek and ye shall find, my friend, that is the gist of my message. There are joys in life and dark clouds too, yes. And I am certain that in the the seeking of things which bring a smile, eventually the dark clouds become less and less dark, more bearable, departing quicker, again, a reason to smile, moving closer to your dream. No one is going to tell you to throw in the towel. 🙏Anyway, that's all I have to share at this point emily1890. Hugs to you!

No, I think that's actually the norm. I don't think anyone wants to die unhappy.

No one wants to live unhappy either. I have been happy in spite of being overwhemingly sad.
Feelings are not mutually exclusive. It is the way I view life that makes the difference

Hello emily1890,
An adopted grandpa always said “Don’t die, until you’re dead”. He lived up to it and was one of the most amazing men I know.

I totally get what you’re saying. It’s a good goal. It probably needs some strategies though as to how you are going to achieve your goal.

reading this reminds me of this line i heard on some movie/show where they said "i dont want to go heaven when i'm dead, i want to experience it while i'm alive." and i get you. if there is an ending to the movie of my life then i want to be happy when i'm there. and i dont know how but i just dont want to look back and wish i did things differently. so yeah.

I can understand this completely, I hope you manage it, at the appointed time. I am told I will most likely close my eyes and go to sleep and simply not wake up. I am okay with that, and not in need of a time machine either. All of my experiences may not have been good, but all them, both good and bad. Have made the person typing this to you, as we are the sum total of our experiences and actions. I worry about my friends and partner, and my lovely dogs, but not much for it really, and they will continue on. I have been doing some facetime meetings for the terminally ill and most people continuously talk of changing this or that if they could. I am content that I have done the best with what I have had to work with. I require not one single thing more, nor to alter a thing. So, when the time arrives, I hope you are the happiest that you can possibly be.

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"Do you ever feel as if there is something wrong with the world?" (The Matrix)

I have the same wish too. I am trying to find myself more now at 43 years old, but I know I have a long more ways to go. I don't want any regrets either, and even though my life experiences till now have been a bit traumatic, I think I've come through the worst of it, and now it's smooth sailing.

I wish you a long and happy life with plenty of amazing of experiences, you have so much ahead of you to look forward to.