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Nov 04, 2023 at 02:17 AM
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What do I gift myself when I’m not sure what I like?
After I emotionally disengaged from my mom, figuring out what I like has been hard |
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Nov 05, 2023 at 07:48 AM
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Nov 06, 2023 at 02:21 PM
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Ok, I used to buy myself paints & brushes for painting. Will get back to enjoying them this winter when finished with the outside work. Guess I kinda gifted myself with a new puppy this year too. Got him just after July 4 & is the newest member of my fur baby family. That has blessed me so much & brought lots of love & fun (& work) back into my life after losing my last elderly eskie doggie a year ago. Think we just gift ourselves sometimes with things we need or want & those are the things we enjoy. __________________  Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Nov 06, 2023 at 06:26 PM
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There must be something that interests you. Do you do any hobbies, sports, what clothes do you like, etc.? I'd give it some thought.
I bought myself an early Christmas present. My country hosted the Panamerican Games recently. I love birds and the mascot was a stuffed animal based on a beautiful bird they have here. The medal winning athletes all received one. I decided I had to have one. Now, they are only selling a Christmas version, so I just ordered that. Yeah, kind of frivolous, but I work hard and save, so I feel like I can make purchases like that every so often. Real bird and the mascot: https://ebird.org/species/mcrtyr1 Fiu es la Mascota Oficial de Santiago 2023. Juegos Panamericanos y Parapanamericanos. |
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Nov 06, 2023 at 08:10 PM
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to remember the games by __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Nov 07, 2023 at 08:09 AM
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To the original poster, I think you mentioned you are trying to cook more. Maybe you could buy a cookbook, some kitchen utensils or similar.
Thanks eskie, I think it's cute. |
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Dec 13, 2023 at 05:24 PM
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My Christmas Fiu arrived today. I'm very happy.
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Dec 15, 2023 at 02:40 PM
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Do you mean you are sick?
To the original poster: I suggest you go out to some shops/stores and look around to see what draws your attention. I sometimes see something I didn't know I wanted,  And shopping around is a gift for me, too--I love to shop! The suggestion about cooking items is a good one, too. 
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Dec 20, 2023 at 08:21 AM
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So I am going through a new phase in my life. It’s hard, it’s like the freedom of being myself is the burden of being myself. So I’m getting used to it. It was so overwhelming that I would use the Internet the whole day. Last week I made some progress- I now have a routine in the morning and I use my phone afterwards as a reward for following it. My mom was not entirely controlling, I had a bit of myself too. It’s complicated. But two weeks ago, I went to the mall all by myself and tried on clothes to see what suits ME and not what makes anyone happy.
My neighbour’s cat and her kitten like to hang out with me, and their love is a gift in itself. I bought a new book called Feeling Good by Dr Burns, it helped me a lot with my thoughts. As for what my hobbies are, I myself don’t know. It’s strange but true, what I loved as a child I don’t connect with much now. And I’m starting out with my favourites list- oranges, Disney princesses, cats, Grimms fairy tales, etc I still don’t know what my favourite activities are until I leave my comfort zone |
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Dec 20, 2023 at 11:00 AM
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Fiu is the name of the stuffed bird mascot I bought (I, not L). The name comes from the bird's call. He has a Santa hat. to the OP, I think that's great you are trying on clothes to discover your style. The book sounds interesting too. |
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Dec 21, 2023 at 01:40 PM
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I wanted a telescope one year for Christmas, but my practical parents bought me a pair of binoculars. I was very disappointed.
Last year I bought myself a telescope. It's still in the box, but I'm happy I finally got one. Just a thought, OP. What did you not get for Christmas one year? Get it, if you can afford it. I got a really good deal. 
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Dec 24, 2023 at 01:17 AM
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Since you want to decrease your screen time, buy something that is not at all associated with screen time. As has already been mentioned, a book, a cookbook, kitchen utensils, paint and brushes–all good ideas.
I recently gifted myself a set of colorful Cuisinart knives. Knives are extremely important in the kitchen, so it is a useful gift but also pleasant to look at because I very much like colorful kitchen items. If you peel your own vegetables, I can recommend my Swiss swivel vegetable peeler. It works great and is also pleasant to look at, being a primary color. __________________ Bipolar I w/psychotic features Last inpatient stay in 2018 Geodon 40 mg Seroquel 75 mg Gabapentin 1200 mg+Vitamin B-complex (against extrapyramidal side effects) Long term side effects from medications, some of them discontinued: - hypothyroidism - obesity BMI ~ 38 |
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Dec 24, 2023 at 07:05 PM
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Lol....my gifting myself always seems tied to a need. Dang this year I got a sidewall flat in my truck tire & had to buy a new huge truck tire that cost a fortune.
I decided that I am going to buy myself a ticket to go see the Christmas Carol Experience (play) at our local Historical Beaumont Inn in town. Heard it is an awesome experience as the play moves around through the rooms of the Inn & not in a theater. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Dec 24, 2023 at 11:50 PM
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I have never been to such a play. Tell us about it!
OP, in general, what do you think about gifting yourself an experience rather than an object? __________________ Bipolar I w/psychotic features Last inpatient stay in 2018 Geodon 40 mg Seroquel 75 mg Gabapentin 1200 mg+Vitamin B-complex (against extrapyramidal side effects) Long term side effects from medications, some of them discontinued: - hypothyroidism - obesity BMI ~ 38 |
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Dec 25, 2023 at 06:43 AM
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If you see something, and it sparks a positive feeling, you probably like it!
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Dec 25, 2023 at 11:13 AM
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