Covert narc😡

Even if a covert narc really hates the way they look and are really shy do they 100%still physically cheat. She lies about everything. About nothing really . I have a gut feeling pretty much because of what I’ve read online but never ever been able to accuse her of cheating . So confusing

My ex husband cheated. Sorry to hear it’s tough. Welcome to the forums.

Trust your gut - it picks up on subtle or not so subtle cues and hints. I always in my gut didn't trust that my ex narc husband wouldn't cheat - and he always said he would not and promised me - then he did cheat.

Sorry for going off on a tangent, but as an old fart narc used to have a whole different meaning.

I was thinking the same thing @lizardlady!

Took a moment to realize the thread is referring to narcissists instead of narcotic officers ...

And their informants!

It's how we tell the boomers from the "gen-any's"!

To the OP - isnt the constant lying reason enough to halt the relationship? Seems like there is a basic lack of respect going on. Like your self-respect.

Narcissists are masters of manipulating your mind to the point it creates confusion.

So I agree with what Have Hope said ...

Trust your gut!

I agree with others who said how Narcissists are Expert at manipulating you and your mind to the extent that you experience confusion. I think your gut is telling you to Run, and I agree.

You can read through some of my stuff. I was overwhelmingly manipulated by my wife. It wasn't until after we'd separated for several months that I had our youngest at a counselling session.

The counselor brought me in and advised no-contact with her mom because of her mom's covert narcissism.

I'd never heard that term before.

I have some family who are psychologists... They live several hours from me. One is a law enforcement PTSD specialist, the other works in private practice. When they heard I was separated they both flagged the concerns they'd had about me for years. and things that they saw that gave them pause and concern.

It was a learning experience.

Looking back, I can see one simple way my wife manipulated me. It was by always negging her appearance. Yet, she is very, very physically attractive. I can see, looking back, that she dressed very well to display her figure, and always looked put-together when going out.

She often wore very sexy undergarments, and wore things that gave a little peek of those things, but still constantly berated her appearance.

It was manipulation. It was to attain constant fawning attention, desire, and reassurance at home.

She probably got approached, hit on and complimented by men in public regularly.

If your partner is truly a covert narcissist.... Truly.... Not just a pop-psych term you picked up, be aware.... They are empty inside. You can't fill them up. No matter what you do, how much you give, they are empty inside. They WILL use you up, drain your emotional resources, and move on.

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