[girlinlondon]

Hey..

Need to ask people who don't know me for advice
I try to go to the gym about 5 times a week, it is somewhat therapeutic for me in the sense that I iPod in with great uplifting music and zone out.
The walk home at the end is probably when I'm at as happy and positive as I could possibly be.

New guy joined a few weeks ago. I've been a member for 7 months and noticed him from the back, because if I could draw my type in my imagination it would have been that, even his awkward run on the treadmill is exactly what I expected. I'm not joking, I really don't notice guys and can't say anything about anyone else at my gym.
We seem to have the same two hour late evening slot.
Anyways this has all been for my own private amusement, it definetely makes the hour cardio fly by! I am pretty shy (especially as I get gross and extremely sweaty) and have never done the girl about town dating thing, although cos I'm young no one expects this, I have never spoken to a guy first in my life.
When I told my roommate about this he said, yeah everyone meets future dates in gyms... Noting that the fact that we both go between 7-9pm in the evenings screams 'single'.

So.. We are definitely aware of one another, we do the nod smile thing when one of us walks in - and I do get the 6th sense eyes burning feeling!(when I'm not giving it). I will definitely stop wearing my dads oversized tshirts. Our gym is very organic, so there isn't a meetup at the drinks bar or water cooler kinda situation, it's a strictly training space. To chat, you have to interrupt.. So I cant think of an random way in.

It's Sunday..
If you're bored and have ever dated someone you've met in the gym, give me some words of inspiration or tips of starting conversation... Even making friends or a gym buddy will be nice. It is pretty lonely there.

[AkAngel]

Catch him in between sets or as he walks in and then...

"I'm super shy and have no idea how to do this but I've been wanting to come over and introduce myself for weeks but I couldn't think of an excuse. Do I need one?"

Balls in his court now.

[la doctora]

How about choosing the treadmill (or whatever) that is next to him. If you always use the same machine try to use different ones for awhile if you want to be not so obvious about it. Eventually work your way around the room on different machines until you get the opportunity to use one next to him. Then you could just smile, say hello and see where it leads. Hopefully as time goes on, you will feel comfortable just saying hello and perhaps will feel more confident about starting a conversation. Or perhaps he will start a conversation after you say hello. Who knows, maybe he has been wanting to start a conversation with you too, but is also shy. Good luck!!!!

[girlinlondon]

hehe.. work my way around the room and end up at the treadmill next to his.
I think I can just manage that.

[ruffy]

Balls in his court now.[/quote].....by ((AkAngel))

HaHa...Im sorry, hahaha...I must be in a silly mood, this quote just sounded so funny .....

[ruffy]

OK ((girlinlondon)) Ive got my self together now. TeeHee!! Well, once you get the guy cornered on the treadmill, before he leaves, ask him if he will spot you on the free weights the next time you guys are working out, or even there and then if the two of you arent too tired. Its a simple request, and everyone knows you should have a spotter for safety purposes, even if you are only able to life the bar. Hope this helps!!!

You could also always feign ignorance of one of the weight machines, or freeweights, or whatever. You could say "excuse me - do you know how to use these/this? I haven't had much experience with it and I don't know if I am doing it right"



Men seem to love when they can dash in and "save the princess" from certain disaster.(of course, we all know you probably know already, buuuut, he wouldn't!)

Then as he shows you could keep up the conversation. Ask him whats his favorite machine, does he do sports, take any classes - if you can find a class he takes, you could say "maybe I should try that - would you mind if i tagged along some time?"



Or - if you are like me, id pull the honest move like above.

"Hey.. this is so embarassing - I know i should have said hello earlier seeing as how we always get here around the same time - but I am so shy so it took me a while to work up the nerve (nervous giggle).

Thats cute.

[girlinlondon]

Thanks so much for all your advice... I think the idea of getting him to show me how to do something (weights) is a great one, almost always a sure thing with guys no?
So I'm going to the gym this evening.. tick tock.. five hours. I will try this and report back... !!

Nice to have something to look forward to.