[Shangrala]

Hi all~

I realize this may be a silly question, but I'm completely new to receiving therapy and I'm not exactly certain what to expect from the therapist & patient relationship/expectation/progression sessions, (even though I realize everyone requires different needs therefore results vary).

I was lucky. On my first scout to seek a new T, I found a wonderful woman with whom I immediately clicked. Our relationship is wonderful.

She tells me that what "we" need to do is to focus on my removal from marriage and build up my esteem so that I can support myself, which is fine. I have no problem with that. She's right. I need to learn to support my own self (never done before).
She gives me "homework" to do each week, which is also perfectly fine. It provides me a challenge and something to strive for >>> progression, which I so need.

Sometimes, I don't exactly feel that what she is requesting of me I can hold up to and I sort of succumb to the posing pressure and end up with nothing done, resulting in feeling as though I'm disappointing her.

So, what exactly is my question?
Do I tell her to not push so hard, despite that she believes that I have the ability to deal with it?, (even though I know that I really do need someone to light that fire under meass..lol).
Like I said earlier, she doesn't feel that I have THAT deep of issues other than lack of confidence. So she thinks that the only real direction I need to go in is the preparation of establishing my independence.

Is it normal for me to feel that I'm disappointing her, too? And, should I be telling her how this is effecting me?
LOL...This seems so lame of me to be asking...I should know this, already.

Thanks, peeps, for any input.....

Shangrala

[Naturefreak]

Hi Shangrala

I suppose most therapists will ask you if they are pushing too hard so I feel there is no need for that.
You will know if it is too much and I'm sure you can handle it.
I don't think she will worry too much about disappointment.
In her profession I'm sure there are many people that don't progress as quickly as others.
I am so proud of you for taking the next step in your recovery. All the best to you Mary.

Therapy is a cooperative venture. To achieve a good result, both therapist and client must do their part. Communication is essential. I think if you feel the need to be posting here, you should be talking about it to her.

It took me awhile to recognize that being open about what I was thinking helps the therapist to give me his/her best work.

Be well.