[ianne]

Have you ever felt that you were taken forgranted by someone significant to you? Oh well I was, a number of times already. I was taken for granted by a lot of people and yet I'm too coward to leave them behind.

[flawlessimperfectionsmft]

Your not a coward I can say that much. And yes I have been take advantage of but never had the power or strength to leave the relationship but that does not make you a coward.

[Skully]

Yes, my father has done it to me all my life. I hate him but at the same time, he is my father so, you know.......

[kikki27]

Originally Posted by ianne

Have you ever felt that you were taken forgranted by someone significant to you? Oh well I was, a number of times already. I was taken for granted by a lot of people and yet I'm too coward to leave them behind.

Yes a lot of times and they make me feel guilty if I confronted them.You not a coward you just have a good heart huggs

[ianne]

Oh, thanks for the empathy guys. I don't know, I just can't leave someone so significant behind. I always think of what will happen to these people if ever I leave them. Like who's gonna comfort them when they are sad, who will defend and help them in times of trouble. I guess that's what they call "unconditional love". Loving a person even if it makes you look like a dork.

[Fresia]

Many people take others for granted as what people value most is not always obvious to them. They make take you for granted but if you decide what is important to you and want to be there for them, their perspective does not matter, only yours; unconditional caring and/or love. As long as you have made a decision, then you are not being taken advantage of without your permission and to your detriment. If it begins to impact you negatively or harms you, then it is time to change your mind and not let them take advantage; granted or not.

[lonegael]

Yeah, sure. thre's a lt of that in my family. Some of it is just sort of getting overly comfortable that the other person will always be there. I've done it myself. Not a good thing, but... human. in extreme cases, it's , well, some folks cna't manage anything else, and as long as it's not abusive, I put up with it and don't expect much more. Had to teach myself to say stop though when it gets to be too much. HUGGGSSSS

[Ygrec23]

Taken for granted. Everyone else here sounds like they know (or think they know) what that means. I don't. I don't know what being "taken for granted" means. Does it mean people don't say thank you? Does it mean they order you around as if they had a right? Does it mean they don't pay any attention to you? I'm not kidding. I really don't know what it means. If someone would try to explain I would appreciate it. Take care.

[Fresia]

'Taken for granted' is a vague phrase with a lot of meaning behind it. The first paragraph of this I think explains it best....

"Taking someone for granted means not cherishing the things someone does for you...it means expecting everything from someone and not giving the same in return...it means never being satisfied with what one has and what one is offered and constantly wanting 'something else'...it means not appreciating a person for who they are...it means wanting them to be someone else...and unfortunately, more often than not, people don't even realize when they are taking something [or someone] for granted...at least not until its too late [pushing someone away b/c of demanding all the time and it begins to harm the person or loss through other reasons such as illness or death, realizing then what was so special in their lives and didn't appreciate at the time, not until that person is gone.]"
Taken from: http://www.jason1365.com/2001/12/25/taken-for-granted/

Hope this helps.